Originally Posted by
LTN Phobia
I was not even trying to downplay the crew member's act, merely that my post was open to misinterpretation that I was trying to downplay it and therefore changed the word. I have not even changed my view. I still think that tugging on a jacket is no more violent than a tap on the shoulder if it was not a hard pull but just a gentle tug to get his attention, and judging from the OP's post, it is my suspicion that it was a gentle tug rather than a hard pull. Rudeness does not equal criminal act or act of violence.
But that, as you say, is just your suspicion. It doesn't carry any more weight than G-BOAC's suggestion that the crew member tapped him on the shoulder rather than pulling his jacket. Really, the OP is the only person who can describe how hard (or gentle) the pull was. And I guess a number of people won't really believe him anyway.