Originally Posted by benzemalyonnais

No marriage in my situation yet.....of course there's pressure to buy a SH house if I want to marry, but I think that it's her family being 'by the book'. After all, they own lots of properties in Tianjin and Beijing, including 3 huge houses in one of the BJ suburbs. I was just with them the other week watching them buy some 4 million rmb 'castle' in Tianjin. I really don't understand them at all, nor do I think I'm ready to marry a Chinese girl.

But I mention this only, because I never experienced this in HK or in Taiwan, where every girl wanted to date you because they could show you off to your friends, not because of the financial implications. Not a Beijinger so I can't say what it's like up there.