Just a suggestion, but if your husband is 1P, you will be better off with calling using his MP# number instead of yours. His status has a much better chance of reaching a US based angent.
Second comment; linked reservations only work if a human is looking, not a computer. So the system sweep that happens once in a while will not see the link in the reservations, as its in the notes. Stinks, but its reality.
Third, I fully understand your frustration, but you have an incredible amount of help here on FT, please realize that you have been a little short with many that are trying to help you.