Darling - I have seen this now and again. I work in an industry where if there were no gay men there would be no industry.
I have watched men who I have been certain were gay struggle on. At least your chum has realised that there are some things you cannot fight and your own nature is one of them.
I do feel sad when children are involved - sorry but I cannot help that. They are totally innocent bystanders and it can be very hard on them.
The one thing that this Old Aunt to so many of my lovely colleagues who tell me of their loves and lives and fill my life with sprakle is this - protect your health at all costs. I would add that to your friend. I am certain that like me there are those that you have known and loved who are no longer here. You know of what I speak. Your greatest act as a friend will be to advise him. What he does then is up to him,
You know when I read this, I feel that I have so very little to complain about.
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bigguyinpasadena
Had a school chum email me today with the disclosure that he is gay and is tired of living a lie.Unfortunately there is a wife and kids involved.
There has been a path of such disclosures from him over the past year evolving from "mostly straight with occasional fantasies about guys"to "bi-but mostly straight" and now this.
I have been out since I was 16 but I have many aquaintences who have not come out till much later in life such as the above friend(who is 50)and I just wanna shout "you have missed the best bits!"but I know that would be cruel and useless given the situation-so I hold my tongue.
So-any resources I can point this fella towards?
TIA for your advice.