Originally Posted by ElizabethConley

I agree.

Girls have mothers and grandmothers for a reason. We're here to protect them, and we have a lifetime of experience and insights to draw from. Allowing oneself to be pawed by a federal thug of any gender, merely for convenience, is a self-violation that cannot be undone. Implying to a daughter that the experience is "simply to be endured", is an assault on her sense of self that also cannot be undone.

All this drivel about making a fuss but forcing the child through the experience anyway is just window-dressing for child abuse.

We need to teach our daughters how to say no and mean it. This lesson is worth any amount of inconvenience.