Mrs EX is home now and we are re-connected. I have told her many times to go the "opt out" route, but when she is without me, as every Japanese does, she follows instructions by ( so called ) authority. And she says, if she says "opt out" people behind her might get inconvenienced.
Fact is that every time she goes through the scanning machine she gets an additional pat down, although she wears a work-out/gym type suit and has absolutely nothing, not even a wedding ring on her.
I have promised her that from now on she will never ever fly alone from the U.S. anywhere, it's just that disgusting. At this point she does not want to go back, but we have no choice. We have one more flight back tomorrow and I cannot be with her. Let's cross our fingers.