I agree with #1

Once a waitress never came back with change. I had to ask for it and she said "You want change?" in disbelief. The total was $12 and I paid with a $20 bill. I have no idea why she expected an $8 tip on a $12 meal since it was just a plate lunch with included drink delivered on a tray and otherwise required no effort from her. To top that performance off, she was rude about actually bringing the change over.

Restaurants that can only cook a steak to well done but promise you everything else.

Grouchy old man waiters (Smith & Wollensky comes to mind ) that don't listen and have already decided for you what you're drinking and eating.

Spacey waitresses at glitter-bars that are there to be "discovered".

Servers asking "Are you done"? or "Are you all set"? As I am neither a turkey nor a bowl of jello, the proper question should be "May I take your plate"?