TSA regs require that your frisker be the same gender as you present yourself.
If you really don't want to be touched by another man, your only option to be able to require otherwise is to very explicitly insist that you identify as female, and want a THEREFORE SAME GENDER female frisker.
But I'd be very doubtful of your ability to pull that off. No offense, but you don't exactly sound like the type to be able to do trans rights advocacy.