They don't know if the person is a sheeple and will submit (and maybe even thank them for feeling safe), someone who will say sexually suggestive things about touching genitals, someone who will call them a pervert or otherwise insult them, or someone who will cold-cock them.
In theory this may be true. In practice, I doubt it is realistic. If it is realistic at all, you can say the same about all rapists. But the personality of the rapist doesn't really allow him to dwell on that. If it did, the hesitation would impair him from responding to his impulse to rape. So, for all intents and purposes, there is no "equality". Additionally, there is no MORAL equality. Being a rapist and being a victim can never be morally equal.