1. Why did you book so many non-refundable things when you knew you would be travelling through BOS and ORD in DECEMBER???
2. Have you called the hotel to find out what might be available for a refund?
3. Did you buy trip insurance? Given the amount of $$$ involved and the time of year you'd be travelling, that might have been a wise move on your part.
Stop searching so hard for somebody to blame and make sure that your bride is happy. Your honeymoon is what you make of it so don't ruin it by spending your time complaining to FlyerTalk.