Hey guys, got a few questions about the amans in Indonesia so I guess I will ask them here rather than start a new thread.

First, very insightful report by the OP and I have read several outstanding reports by the other regular FT'ers^. Your contributions are really appreciated by folks like me who are early in their luxury travel careers, so thanks! I recently got a $10000 bonus from work for a job well done and would really like to splurge a little for a special vacation. As my mother is a devout buddhist (I'm not), I am planning to take her on a once in a lifetime trip to amanjiwo. Right now I'm struggling to decide on the following:

1) Really intrigued by the packages amans are offering, specifically the cultural trails and the bali and beyond. Would you say 3 nights at jiwo are too short? Would hate to travel half the world for 3 nights then feel the need to extend the stay. room-wise, targeting the borobudur suite unless you guys feel I should go for a pool suite.

2) The 7night bali and beyond package is equally intriguing to me, in particular amankila and amandari. Jiwo is really for my mother, and I was hoping to save dari/kila/usa for another special lady. If I were to take this trip, I suppose the next logical destination would be the FS maldives. So if I were to hit all three places in one trip, which one should I visit first? In the back of my mind I have 4 days at jiwo, 2 days at dari, and 2 days at kila. I'm open to any combination though. Also, do I have to arrange (air/ground?) transport from jiwo to dari/kila?

3) This is a rather awkward question, but is it a bit unusual to stay at the amans with your mother? My understanding is that most guests are couples who are on their honeymoons/anniversaries/???
(The past several months have been rough for my mother so I want to take her out on a trip, and borobudur sounds awesome.)

4) budget-wise, i prefer not to spend the entire bonus on a week-long trip, but i understand it's a very special experience. just in terms of having a number in mind, how much should i plan to spend a day in addition to room costs? I will probably end up using more than 1 activity a day, and quite likely to indulge my mother with a spa treatment here and there.

5) This is a silly question, but if I ever feel the need to explore a little, say in Ubud or in the more touristy areas in bali, can I hire an aman driver for the day just to take us around? I'm certain the resorts are fantastic and I can easily spend the day at the bale or pool, but not sure if my mother's going to want to sightsee a bit.

6) suggestions for any can't miss activities/food/things to do. (they dont have the elephant ride at jiwo anymore, right?)

7) heard a lot of great things about david o. does he have a website or should i just pm him to arrange the trip?

almost forgot to mention, I plan to be there in late jan early feb.

Thanks in advance for everyone's help! I definitely will write a trip report + photos.