The relevant variable, here, is eating or not. If you are partaking, I do not think that you can do that comfortably from a reclined position. There is a tendency to hover over the plate. If the person in front of you is reclined, it makes this hover challenging. Would you not prefer that the person in front of you "derecline" during the period which they are leaning forward to eat as you are? I understand if you are sleeping, but if you are not using the recline during your repast, I believe the lean forward non recliners are the offenders, not the FA's.