Thanks for the response. Brilliant choices. I have been working in child protection for many years and horrified with the choices. We spend all our time teaching our children to stay safe from this kind of intrusion. Your body is private and tell someone if you are touched etc then the government does it.

I will not let some random TSA agent grope my child by choice so it looks like the scanner it has to be. At least she won't be aware of the intrusion. The with pat down that violates her in a real physical way. I don't want anyone touching my child like that. I will dress her as simply as possible an pray she doesn't set off some alarm. If she does than I make sure the pat down is done in full view so that people can see how wrong it is. Will I get in trouble if I consent to pat down if she sets off an alarm but tell them I consent under duress? What what be the best way to handle this? We have to travel so staying home isn't an option. I get the need for security but this is over the top.

Exbayern, what would you suggest parents do?