I just got totally screwed by Star alliance ( my own fault)

Traveling to FRA on Business and booked a FULL "Y" refundable so I could upgrade. Got my wife a first class round trip on LH.... Of course business is sold out on our return flight and I can't double upgrade to first...(My anniversary in Germany so hoping to spend time together),.. what a stupid rule though.... if you have the miles and they have space why not? Instead my wife is in first and I'm stuck with a $2500 coach seat.

I called Lufthansa to buy a first class one-way $8K, Business $5,500....

Not to mention it cost me 135,000 miles for my wife....I'd at least like to sit next to her.

Ideas? Thoughts?