Originally Posted by MrSoft

I didn't expect this - it started out as an innocent idea, now I need complete management re-programming. I had no wish to flaunt my status while the little ones ate gruel - yet I do see the risk, kindly tabled by other posters, of being despised as a pathetic softie unfit to lead.

The best solution available, to me, seems
(a) toss for it, or
(b) how about if I pretend I am in the "forward economy cabin"?