I see about 5 different dining threads here, so I'm sort of picking one randomly.

I'm planning my wife's 40th birthday dinner. She is very much a fan of fine dining - as much for the ambiance/presentation as for the food. I'm looking for the best overall experience - high end and/or "jackets required" is OK.

Anything from Napa to Big Sur is fair game. Right now, I have a reservation for The Dining Room but I wonder what the style/feel will be like being inside a large city hotel. (I've heard the food is incredible, but if the place feels too much like a "client dinner" I might opt for something else.)

I'm just outside 2 months so I could book French Laundry right when it becomes available. We've already eaten at Nepenthe (that's a different style than we're looking for anyway). We are having lunch the following day at the Post Ranch Inn. This thread is the first I've heard of the Los Gatos place.

Thoughts?