Originally Posted by
pinworm
Actually, it IS their business who brings whom into the Hotel. The hotel is not public space, it is private property. They have every right to question whomever they want for whatever reason. It may not be good customer service, it may not be polite, but it is well within their rights to find out who is entering their PRIVATE PROPERTY.
And, many hotels in the far east have house rules specifically covering this sort of situation, such as "No visitors allowed in guest rooms after 10pm." If there is such a house rule, then it most certainly is the hotel's business if they think someone is violating the rule. Having said that, a better way to handle it would be for the guard to ask "Are you a registered guest? May I see your room key?" However, doing so in a polite way may just be a Western expectation. If the guard thought your wife was a local, then there's no reason for him to act in any manner other than what local culture would dictate in that situation. To expect otherwise could be interpreted as a form of cultural imperialism on your part.