I am PM on Delta and Platinum of AF/KL at times I have cross flown, so I am in a pretty good position to judge these benefits.
1. Your bad luck. I have always gotten priority tags on long haul int'l flights irrespectve of which program I was using. I also geneally get it no matter what other ST partner I use.
2. As alluded to above, as goes it when DL Medallions fly other carriers. I should add that traditionally DL has been the best of all the members in overlooking too much baggage. As I alluded to on another thread, recently I had to fight tooth and nail with AF NOT to be charged when I had 3 bags combined with a weight of less than 50kg JFK-IST on a Delta coded full whack Biz ticket, and I am top tier in both programmes. Again, there s no such ST benefit, the only alliance which has such benefit is *.
3. Same as above
4. Again your bad luck, I have never had, nor heard of this problem.
5. Not an issue.