Don't feel bad, I was at EWR 2 weeks ago, not a mention of the complimentary upgrade or waived fee on President's Club to me either.
I did, however just receive in the mail last week a complimentary Regus Gold membership in conjunction with Delta Crown Room Clubs. Now there's a real timely marketing piece. Must have had an old stash of pre-SkyClub direct mails they had to get rid of.