Originally Posted by
Yaatri
I am overwhelmed by his hospitality. I am at a loss as to how I should reciprocate. Since I have been out of a job for a while, I was not looking to spend lots of money on this trip. But I can;t let him pick up the tab every time. If he insists on doing so, how do I express my appreciation? Is it appropriate for me to take gift(s) for him/his family or his friends (from other companies) to whom e will introduce me? I have never been to Japan nor have I ever been a recipient of such hospitality.
As
MrLapLap said, gift-giving can be quite complicated (and potentially, quite expensive). After reading your post, if it were me, I think I would take the time now to make it very clear to your host what you are comfortable with (in terms of meetings/greetings, transportation, who picks up the tabs, other, etc.). While this may be a bit awkward to do now, it is a heck of a lot less awkward than it will be if you find yourself in an unacceptable (defined variously) situation on site. While you clearly wish to respect this person's culture and appreciate their hospitality, they must also respect your wishes and your situation. If they do not, having this discussion now will save you a lot of time and money. I spend a lot of time in Japan, and I can tell you that it can be difficult to make this conversation work - but approached with respect, politeness, and firmness it can. Maybe this person will become your best friend. Until then, keep your options open.
Originally Posted by MrLapLap
I go on, the rule that applies to the rest of the world apply to Japan as well - if it sounds too good, then it probably is.
This is in no way suggesting that he is out to pull a fast one on you, although fraud is one of the most common types of crime there is over there, (whereas in London, it's more like petty violence, stabbing etc.)
He might have other personal motives or sentiments, well it could be anything from sweet natured intentions to outright evil. The trouble is you don't know
I too hope that all is on the up and up. He is apparently offering a lot for a trip to a lounge. On the other hand, many people are just nice. I would be cautious.
Best of luck, with the trip and finding employment. Happy travels.