Wow, I thought I was kinda alone but it seems that I'm very similar to a lot of other smokers out there.
It doesn't really bother me at all on a plane, once I board (or clear security/customs) the brain seems to register the fact that I absolutely cannot smoke so it's just a non issue. After dinner, wine, cheese and a coffee I might think "a smoke would be nice right now" but that's about it, it's a just a thought and not anything even approaching a craving.
However once I land, collect luggage, clear customs etc then I'm keen for a smoke. Thats when the groups of people who are wandering aimlessly, groups gathered in front of the doors to outside etc do annoy me. I think it's because that is when the "cannot smoke now" thing has turned off and now I've gone 12 hours without a cigarette and someone is stopping me from having one. Not about to start knocking people over or anything but there might be some mumbling under the breath.
I also appreciate smoking lounges that aren't dives, used to really enjoy the smoking lounge in the Pier in HKG. I'm getting used to non smoking hotels and they don't really bother me. What is frustrating is staying in a non smoking room in Tokyo where it's non smoking outside (sorta kinda) as well. The hotels will have some ashtrays set up in the lobby but I'd much rather go outside somewhere out of peoples way and have my cigarette, I don't want to blow smoke around an enclosed area like a hotel lobby.
The bulk of my flights are 1-2 hours this year but also have reasonably regular 10-12 hour flights. Longest flight (or better put longest period of time without getting off the aircraft) was 24 hours and that wasn't a problem.