I used to feel that when Outback/Applebees/whatever started and the waiter intro'ed him/herself while kneeling was off-putting but it at least shows me they're trying. Also its kind of awkward referring to a waiter/tress by his/her name.

Also when orders get delayed 15-20 mins and they come out to tell me so, and there is no comping (I would be even fine if they took a percentage off, not neccesarily for free). Fine, I might be cheap but you're wasting my time because you might've fudged up my order and need to start over. This usually happens when I order a combo and I'll tell the server to not bother and hopefully they get the hint (either get my order out now or take it off my bill).

Oh and your writing on the bill won't increase your tip. Your waiting on me attentively will increase your tip.