What to do? Possible inappropriate Contact Made by FA in F
Nov 8, 2012, 4:14 am
#31
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True, however some posters made a good point that it could have been a motherly touch. So to get the FA in trouble for this might not be good at this stage. Should have been taken up at the spot. Those that advocated this could have done it with a modicum of gentleness. Not everyone is so quick to react 
I would not have liked being touched in that manner either by anyone, regardless of gender, and I'm a straight guy.
Nov 8, 2012, 5:38 am
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Oversensitive or homophobic in your eyes perhaps. I think that if you're upset by the staff and you're a customer, you're an unhappy customer. Unhappy customers should say something.
Nov 8, 2012, 7:16 am
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I'm on the OP's side of if you didn't like it, then you should complain. Though personally I would've said something to them immediately. Some people are just a bit touchy and overbearing and they don't even realize it. I can almost guarantee that it was just how that FA is and nothing else. I will go on to say that I was on 6 longhaul flights on Asian airlines last month and got quite a few touches, I didn't mind the touch of a TG or OZ girl though 
YMMV
YMMV
Nov 8, 2012, 8:08 am
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I'm on the OP's side of if you didn't like it, then you should complain. Though personally I would've said something to them immediately. Some people are just a bit touchy and overbearing and they don't even realize it. I can almost guarantee that it was just how that FA is and nothing else. I will go on to say that I was on 6 longhaul flights on Asian airlines last month and got quite a few touches, I didn't mind the touch of a TG or OZ girl though YMMV
YMMV
Nov 8, 2012, 8:12 am
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Nobody is getting fired, I can almost guarantee that (unless he has many reports of this against him and this is the last straw). We're talking about a union employee here, about as hard to fire as a government employee.
Nov 8, 2012, 8:28 am
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How is this "homophobic?" Let's not throw around such words. Some people, including myself, do not want to be repeatedly touched in any way, shape or form by people I do not know. Yes, the OP should have spoken up at the time but, like others have said, a nicely worded e-mail to US will also help just in case this FA is touchy-feely and some passengers believe he goes too far. We all know what courts have deemed to be sexual harassment (ie the slightest of things in cases of men versus women).
Also, and I say this as someone who is not straight, I think it's quite natural for a straight guy to be uncomfortable with another man, especially one he does not know, repeatedly touching him. If it makes the passenger uncomfortable, regardless of anyone's gender, it should not be done repeatedly.
Also, and I say this as someone who is not straight, I think it's quite natural for a straight guy to be uncomfortable with another man, especially one he does not know, repeatedly touching him. If it makes the passenger uncomfortable, regardless of anyone's gender, it should not be done repeatedly.
Nov 8, 2012, 9:04 am
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OP Reply
Sorry for to replying sooner - I had the flu...
I'll answer a few questions and share some thoughts.
1) I'm not gay
2) I would have still been surprised/shocked had this been a female FA - yes, even offended
3) In no way am I accusing him of coming on to m, just of inappropriate behavior which made me feel uncomfortable
4) Yes, I should have commented on the spot.
4a) I didn't for fear of not saying it appropriately and out of slight embarrassment.
5) I am writing up an email now to US making all of the above clear along with info from the OP.
6) No I don't want him fired. Lol
7) Yes, it's very p,a usable that his touching was meant in more of a familial or maternal way - still, to me at least, inappropriate.
8) I am not homophobic in any way and have some good friends who are gay. I would however have a problem if a man (gay or straight) tried to sexually/physically come on to me. That's normal, isit not?
Other thoughts? Questions? Out of place homophobic bashing?
I'll answer a few questions and share some thoughts.
1) I'm not gay
2) I would have still been surprised/shocked had this been a female FA - yes, even offended
3) In no way am I accusing him of coming on to m, just of inappropriate behavior which made me feel uncomfortable
4) Yes, I should have commented on the spot.
4a) I didn't for fear of not saying it appropriately and out of slight embarrassment.
5) I am writing up an email now to US making all of the above clear along with info from the OP.
6) No I don't want him fired. Lol
7) Yes, it's very p,a usable that his touching was meant in more of a familial or maternal way - still, to me at least, inappropriate.
8) I am not homophobic in any way and have some good friends who are gay. I would however have a problem if a man (gay or straight) tried to sexually/physically come on to me. That's normal, isit not?
Other thoughts? Questions? Out of place homophobic bashing?
Nov 8, 2012, 9:12 am
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Sorry for to replying sooner - I had the flu...
I'll answer a few questions and share some thoughts.
1) I'm not gay
2) I would have still been surprised/shocked had this been a female FA - yes, even offended
3) In no way am I accusing him of coming on to m, just of inappropriate behavior which made me feel uncomfortable
4) Yes, I should have commented on the spot.
4a) I didn't for fear of not saying it appropriately and out of slight embarrassment.
5) I am writing up an email now to US making all of the above clear along with info from the OP.
6) No I don't want him fired. Lol
7) Yes, it's very p,a usable that his touching was meant in more of a familial or maternal way - still, to me at least, inappropriate.
8) I am not homophobic in any way and have some good friends who are gay. I would however have a problem if a man (gay or straight) tried to sexually/physically come on to me. That's normal, isit not?
Other thoughts? Questions? Out of place homophobic bashing?
I'll answer a few questions and share some thoughts.
1) I'm not gay
2) I would have still been surprised/shocked had this been a female FA - yes, even offended
3) In no way am I accusing him of coming on to m, just of inappropriate behavior which made me feel uncomfortable
4) Yes, I should have commented on the spot.
4a) I didn't for fear of not saying it appropriately and out of slight embarrassment.
5) I am writing up an email now to US making all of the above clear along with info from the OP.
6) No I don't want him fired. Lol
7) Yes, it's very p,a usable that his touching was meant in more of a familial or maternal way - still, to me at least, inappropriate.
8) I am not homophobic in any way and have some good friends who are gay. I would however have a problem if a man (gay or straight) tried to sexually/physically come on to me. That's normal, isit not?
Other thoughts? Questions? Out of place homophobic bashing?
Something happened and it bothered you. You had/have your reasons, and they may or may not be similar to those that any of the rest of us would have had under similar circumstances. You posted to this board -- a reasonable, harmless thing to do -- and you learned that different people have different perspectives, different experiences, and so on. Not surprising for a situation like this.
Now I suggest that you give it a rest and forget about it. Not because you are wrong, not because what you said happened did not happen .... just because you (and all concerned) are past the point where anything good (or less negative) is likely to happen by doing more and or rehashing it.
Nov 8, 2012, 11:44 am
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A couple of things...
Please explain. If you didn't think he was coming on to you, what was it about his touching you that you felt was inappropriate or offensive? I'm trying to understand the distinction.
It depends on whether you also have a problem when a woman comes on to you sexually/physically.
It depends on whether you also have a problem when a woman comes on to you sexually/physically.
OK with it
Nov 8, 2012, 12:57 pm
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Did he grab your butt too?
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Unless he was flirting with you during the flight, it sounds innocent.
If you feel like someone is invading your privacy or touching you, next time say "Please don't touch me!"
To me it sounds like the flight attendant was effeminate, so he may have the touch and personal interactions, like the 'tickle' for your attention, that a female flight attendant might have.
Weren't we all taught at a young age if someone touches you inappropriately, just say NO!!!
Unless he was flirting with you during the flight, it sounds innocent.
If you feel like someone is invading your privacy or touching you, next time say "Please don't touch me!"
To me it sounds like the flight attendant was effeminate, so he may have the touch and personal interactions, like the 'tickle' for your attention, that a female flight attendant might have.
Weren't we all taught at a young age if someone touches you inappropriately, just say NO!!!
Nov 8, 2012, 1:40 pm
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Page 3 of a pointless thread .. How amusing ..
Still may be this will take it to page 4!
Still may be this will take it to page 4!
Nov 9, 2012, 6:10 am
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Sit in coach... problem solved. No one will touch you in coach. No one will take your jacket or say hello or bring you drinks or...
Sit in coach... problem solved.
Sit in coach... problem solved.
Nov 9, 2012, 6:11 am
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page 4 yet?
Nov 9, 2012, 6:11 am
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no, not yet...