dmitriy55

Someone I know is planning to do a marriage proposal in transatlantic J (more specifically a KLM 787, daytime flight). Does anyone have experience on how to best handle such a matter?

The idea is to do it semi-publicly, e.g. not quietly in the adjacent herringbone seats, but the whole 'getting down on one knee' thing in the isle. Some specific questions:
1) Is the idea fine from a disruption perspective? Certainly, many people want 'peace and quiet' during a flight, but then again the whole thing is just a few minutes and it's by far not as disruptive as the idea that someone expressed in FT in an earlier thread of doing the proposal at the security checkpoint...
2) Should one just discretely notify the crew at the beginning of the flight, or is it better to let the airline know beforehand since it is J after-all and maybe they can do something "special" in terms of service on the flight. I'm sure that it's a somewhat common thing to propose on airplanes, at least they've certainly handled it before.
3) How should one handle other passengers? An idea was to discretely distribute a note to everyone in J with details on what is going to be happening. It would be also good to have 1-2 take a video with their cellphones for memories, or (even better) give them my own phone/camera in advance. How does one best approach that?
4) Is there a way to ask the pilot make an announcement (obviously it's their final discretion whether to do it), or that is going waaaay overboard?

Any other thoughts?

MSPeconomist

Certainly ask the FAs (or purser) when would be least disruptive. Perhaps just after the first drinks service has gone past your row, so that you have a glass of champagne in hand? Other passengers are likely to be awake at that time, so IMO it would be less likely to disturb them.

A318neo

Do it near the end of the flight because if she says "no", it will not be a good flight.

Do it privately. No need to get others involved.

After she says "yes", you may tell the flight attendant and maybe a glass of wine will be served. If you want a video, ask a nearby passenger if they will take a video. You may give them a note. "I am about to propose marriage. Are you willing to make a video. If yes, come with me and I will show you how to use my phone." Maybe also translate in Dutch, too. Or ask a flight attendant to do it.

jrl767

erik123

Don't do it on a plane. It's tacky.

satman40

this is private, keep it that way,,

TravelLawyer

OMG, ignore the nay-sayers. Only your friend and bride-to-be would know the best way to propose. If both are AVgeeks, then proposing on a plane would be amazing! Even TPG has an article on it. https://thepointsguy.com/guide/tips-...n-an-airplane/

Also, watch the ending to the Wedding Singer a few times.

GetSetJetSet

Thoughts: Don't do this.

will2288

I love to travel. And I really love spending time in J/F cabins and lounges. But, I don't see them as romantic though. And neither have my SOs.

I would suggest your 'friend' find a better time. I'll assume he knows she will say yes, so no big worries there. A handful of J pax might watch and clap after. The rest will be napping or watching IFE. If that appeals to you, great. But, I don't really see the appeal. Also, consider that after the proposal and a hug/kiss, you will go back to your fairly private seats. Not the best setting for loving chit-chat or cuddling.

I'd guess that this flight is the start of a vacation? Find somewhere romantic and private the first or second day of the trip, and then pop the question. You'll have the rest of the trip to celebrate!

Cards1234

I think it will be romantic and something to remember for a long time. Definitely different and fun.

Propose after first drinks.
Everyone will be awake and I’m sure most other people will have a positive reaction to watch the proposal.
Ask their help to video the proposal

DCAFly

As a passenger I'd love to see this, but I can't speak to whether your SO would like it/think it's romantic. And if you think it's the right thing to do, ignore the naysayers.

Though maybe do it on the way home, since if you're outbound get a "no" it could be a loooong vacation.

Fraser

I was on a BA flight LHR-JFK in F a few years ago where the guy in 1F proposed to the lady in 1E. They were clearly F newbies or it was some special occasion anyways as they were playing around with the seat excessively at boarding, taking endless photos of themselves before departure etc.

I had prime viewing opportunity given I was in 2A....he proposed almost right after the seatbelt sign went off and had clearly given the FAs a heads up as they were standing right behind the curtain and were primed with champagne glasses already poured (I guess one would have been for me if she said no ). The crew did a very good job, and the captain even made a brief announcement to it as we taxied in at JFK. Personally, I think public proposals are a bit naff so it wasn't really my thing

dmitriy55

I meant their own camera

Gig103

Marriage proposals are like depositions. Don't ask questions you don't already know the answer to!

keitherson

Talk about walking down the wrong aisle