Skinny female seatmate raises armrest
Feb 12, 2019, 5:19 pm
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PhD student stipends are extremely low.
When I was a PhD student I’d have gladly accepted a sugar mama arrangement with any passably good looking woman under 29.
When I was a PhD student I’d have gladly accepted a sugar mama arrangement with any passably good looking woman under 29.
Feb 12, 2019, 5:20 pm
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It doesn't matter if the person is fat, short, tall, skinny, young, old, male, female, (fill in the blank) the armrest stays down. I would have put it back into its normal position and continued the conversation.
Feb 12, 2019, 5:22 pm
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I agree in principle, but sometimes if the seatmate is a POS, there's more encroachment when the arm rest is down (overflowing under the arm rest) than when it's up, so it's unclear which is worse.
Feb 12, 2019, 5:46 pm
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Feb 12, 2019, 5:58 pm
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Feb 12, 2019, 6:10 pm
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Feb 12, 2019, 6:28 pm
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oh no, it happened - 'thin shaming'!
like the above, and other perceived injustices (that really don't exist), i fear it would have just fed our paranoid society.
like the above, and other perceived injustices (that really don't exist), i fear it would have just fed our paranoid society.
Feb 12, 2019, 6:30 pm
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I don't understand the issue enough to respond intelligently. Can someone clue me in on what is the question?
Feb 12, 2019, 6:40 pm
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In trying to recline his seat he accidentally fumbled the lady. Her movement of the arm rest up (out of use position), could have been perceived as an invitation.
The OP is wondering whether he should have pointed this out to his charming stranger.
Feb 12, 2019, 6:42 pm
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Seriously though, OP, you are reading way more into the situation. I think the other pax was only trying to help, and nothing else. Go about your normal business and flying routine.
Feb 12, 2019, 6:51 pm
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If raising the armrest can be construed as "an invitation" (an invitation to what?) then having a conversation could be construed as a "seduction"?
Feb 12, 2019, 6:54 pm
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run like hell
Feb 12, 2019, 6:59 pm
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Now, putting your head (female) on someone's shoulder (male), touching said person's thigh, all in the while highly intoxicated, is the start of some sweet memories
Feb 12, 2019, 7:03 pm
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Sometime around the time I was turning 30, I was flying transcon weekly. On one flight a college aged woman sat down next to me, we chatted a bit before take off and once we were in the air she put her head on my shoulder and went right to sleep, ended up with her arms wrapped around mine before the end of the flight. She at least gave the appearance of being quite embarrassed when she awoke. I've always kind've thought we both got something out of it... she got a pillow and I got the brief flicker of thinking I might still be attractive to a college aged woman. I feel like I did pretty ok with Mrs. MCIUnitedGuy, whom I had not met at that point, so no regrets about not trying to get the sleeper's number I guess.....
Feb 12, 2019, 7:14 pm
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if people perceive a look, then it can be argued about some form of discrimination (no matter how nonsensical that sounds).
similarly, if men may flirt or say something that could be perceived as suggestive, it can be seen as an 'assault' or harassment.
accordingly, men have to make sure there are no blurred lines.
as a society we can't suggest ways for women to avoid such situations as this is considered 'victim blaming' - even if there is no actual victim (because it's a hypothetical discussion). in the new world, we are made to feel that men are to blame, and men's actions are where the fault lies and that is solely where changes need to be made.