I've done something very stupid and fallen for a flight attendant
Sep 18, 18, 5:25 pm
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I've done something very stupid and fallen for a flight attendant
Long-time lurker and poster at FT but am somewhat embarrassed about this situation.......
So I'm, a male in my mid-30s who was doing a mileage run overseas about eighteen months ago. On the outbound from the US, the FA requested my number when de-boarding so we could meet while I was abroad (which I thought was odd because I in no way flirted with her or made any advances). I gave her my cell, but she never called me so I quickly erased it from memory. Fast-forward a year later and she randomly texts me saying she is layed-over in my city for the weekend and wants to get together. We did, and what was an incredible day has now turned into a basically bi-weekly occurance where we meet for a weekend in whatever US city she has been assigned to. It's been going on for a little over 6 months or so.
Anyone ever have something like this happen to them before, and how long can this go on for? It's really started to kill my personal dating life since I have less and less of a desire to see anyone else.
As an aside, I've never spent a dime on her. We stay in her hotels (paid for by her airline), split costs of all meals, drinks, tickets, excursions, etc.
So I'm, a male in my mid-30s who was doing a mileage run overseas about eighteen months ago. On the outbound from the US, the FA requested my number when de-boarding so we could meet while I was abroad (which I thought was odd because I in no way flirted with her or made any advances). I gave her my cell, but she never called me so I quickly erased it from memory. Fast-forward a year later and she randomly texts me saying she is layed-over in my city for the weekend and wants to get together. We did, and what was an incredible day has now turned into a basically bi-weekly occurance where we meet for a weekend in whatever US city she has been assigned to. It's been going on for a little over 6 months or so.
Anyone ever have something like this happen to them before, and how long can this go on for? It's really started to kill my personal dating life since I have less and less of a desire to see anyone else.
As an aside, I've never spent a dime on her. We stay in her hotels (paid for by her airline), split costs of all meals, drinks, tickets, excursions, etc.
Sep 18, 18, 5:31 pm
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Sep 18, 18, 5:32 pm
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Ahhh the days of Tarom flying to Delhi. Bought back some memories
Sep 18, 18, 5:36 pm
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Wow, this sounds pretty exciting. Not sure why we need to know whether you spent any money on her, what’s the difference? I take my dates to dinner all the time.
How is it killing your ‘dating life’? Hasn’t it actually become your dating life?
if you are both single and having fun, why is it stupid? Do you see a future? If so, then go for it!
How is it killing your ‘dating life’? Hasn’t it actually become your dating life?
if you are both single and having fun, why is it stupid? Do you see a future? If so, then go for it!
Sep 18, 18, 5:55 pm
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I married one... best I do not provide advice (ex-wife).
Sep 18, 18, 6:41 pm
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Originally Posted by bitterproffit
How is it killing your ‘dating life’? Hasn’t it actually become your dating life?
if you are both single and having fun, why is it stupid? Do you see a future? If so, then go for it!
if you are both single and having fun, why is it stupid? Do you see a future? If so, then go for it!
Was really just trying to see if anyone else had something similar to this happen before and what the conclusion was.
Sep 18, 18, 6:48 pm
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Originally Posted by BatsihtStupid
Anyone ever have something like this happen to them before, and how long can this go on for?
But before you get too hooked, unless you know for sure, assume they may have a hookup at every airport. I'm sure the FA I knew did, but I was in my 30s and couldn't've cared less, it was "see you when I see you" on both ends.
Sep 18, 18, 6:49 pm
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Not specific to your situation, but too good to be true always scares the h*ll out of me. Maybe you're feeling that? I was happily married to a "too good to be true" for 25 years. Good luck with it!
Sep 18, 18, 9:32 pm
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Long time lurker and poster? You just joined this month. What's a long time for you? 24 hours?
Anyways, what do you want to happen? What do you want more, your "dating" life or her? Why do you only stay at her hotels? I'm just going to give you this simple piece of advice if you want her go after her. Don't string her along. Just make sure you can live with your decision.
Anyways, what do you want to happen? What do you want more, your "dating" life or her? Why do you only stay at her hotels? I'm just going to give you this simple piece of advice if you want her go after her. Don't string her along. Just make sure you can live with your decision.
Sep 19, 18, 2:12 am
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Originally Posted by Lufthomie
Long time lurker and poster? You just joined this month. What's a long time for you? 24 hours?
Anyways, what do you want to happen? What do you want more, your "dating" life or her? Why do you only stay at her hotels? I'm just going to give you this simple piece of advice if you want her go after her. Don't string her along. Just make sure you can live with your decision.
Anyways, what do you want to happen? What do you want more, your "dating" life or her? Why do you only stay at her hotels? I'm just going to give you this simple piece of advice if you want her go after her. Don't string her along. Just make sure you can live with your decision.
Sep 19, 18, 2:14 am
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Originally Posted by BatsihtStupid
Long-time lurker and poster at FT but am somewhat embarrassed about this situation.......
So I'm, a male in my mid-30s who was doing a mileage run overseas about eighteen months ago. On the outbound from the US, the FA requested my number when de-boarding so we could meet while I was abroad (which I thought was odd because I in no way flirted with her or made any advances). I gave her my cell, but she never called me so I quickly erased it from memory. Fast-forward a year later and she randomly texts me saying she is layed-over in my city for the weekend and wants to get together. We did, and what was an incredible day has now turned into a basically bi-weekly occurance where we meet for a weekend in whatever US city she has been assigned to. It's been going on for a little over 6 months or so.
Anyone ever have something like this happen to them before, and how long can this go on for? It's really started to kill my personal dating life since I have less and less of a desire to see anyone else.
As an aside, I've never spent a dime on her. We stay in her hotels (paid for by her airline), split costs of all meals, drinks, tickets, excursions, etc.
So I'm, a male in my mid-30s who was doing a mileage run overseas about eighteen months ago. On the outbound from the US, the FA requested my number when de-boarding so we could meet while I was abroad (which I thought was odd because I in no way flirted with her or made any advances). I gave her my cell, but she never called me so I quickly erased it from memory. Fast-forward a year later and she randomly texts me saying she is layed-over in my city for the weekend and wants to get together. We did, and what was an incredible day has now turned into a basically bi-weekly occurance where we meet for a weekend in whatever US city she has been assigned to. It's been going on for a little over 6 months or so.
Anyone ever have something like this happen to them before, and how long can this go on for? It's really started to kill my personal dating life since I have less and less of a desire to see anyone else.
As an aside, I've never spent a dime on her. We stay in her hotels (paid for by her airline), split costs of all meals, drinks, tickets, excursions, etc.
Sep 19, 18, 5:08 am
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Originally Posted by ExpatSomchai
Ahhh the days of Tarom flying to Delhi. Bought back some memories
Sep 19, 18, 6:12 am
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Stop looking a gift horse in the mouth and enjoy it while it lasts. One day she'll ask another pax for his number, and that'll be that.
Sep 19, 18, 6:16 am
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Friend married a CX FA but that didn't end well. I've had offers from female FAs (and even some misjudging males) so it's not uncommon. I'd say it adds a level of difficulty to a relationship if the FA remains in the job and is from a different country/culture. If she would live in the same town ,has a similar background, and is home regularly, there should be no problem.
Sep 19, 18, 9:55 am
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I assume you are having sex?
I think you need to talk to her about your feelings and see where things are headed. Just booty no strings or relatiopnship?
On Seinfeld the barometer was... is there Tampax in your cupboard
I think you need to talk to her about your feelings and see where things are headed. Just booty no strings or relatiopnship?
On Seinfeld the barometer was... is there Tampax in your cupboard
