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Nosy Neighbor or rude seatmate?

Old Oct 5, 2017, 10:42 am
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Nosy Neighbor or rude seatmate?

Been flying for 30 plus years and try to be the best passenger to the airline and my fellow seatmates.

Got to the airport last night and discovered that there was an earlier flight to my destination. Because it was it was a last minute deal, only middle seats left. No problem since it was an hour flight. The person in the aisle seat was a little bit larger, had their earbuds in and took both armrests. The person in the window seat was elderly and very small framed, but they were making themselves at home and had a bag of items between the window and their legs which made them move more into what should have been my space. I ignored all of his and put my earbuds in and turned on the TV and was glad to get home early.

5 minutes into flying, the elderly passenger in the window seat tapped me on the shoulder. They said that they didn't appreciate the TV News Show that I was watching and they wanted me to turn to another channel. I was dumbstruck and at first I ignored them. I put my earbuds back in and the person waived their hands in front my screen and again I took my earbuds out and they started to give me a lecture on the evils of watching this show. I spoke up very loudly and said that they needed to mind their business, this was America and I had the right to watch what I wanted and they needed to leave me alone. They then pull out a book to read and it's all about the rights of the individuals being tramped on and how to fight back!

I consider myself a nice helpful person to my fellow human beings. For the rest of the flight, I made sure that they weren't in my space and during drink service wouldn't help pass the drink. Petty, I know but I was pissed at this point.

I know that the there are strong political views held by many folks in this country but I was stunned at their behavior. Anyone ever run into something like this?
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Old Oct 5, 2017, 11:11 am
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If she doesn't like that news show she shouldn't watch it.
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Old Oct 5, 2017, 11:20 am
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Ignore, ignore, and ignore.

No need to even have a conversation about your rights. Just tell them it's none of their business and go back to watching.

Who encroaches on your space is a separate issue and isn't related to the news.
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Old Oct 5, 2017, 11:34 am
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Maybe she shouldn't be trying to watch what's on your screen?
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Old Oct 5, 2017, 8:36 pm
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You said it, it was petty, and behavior was NOT not being the "best passenger to the airline and (my) fellow seatmates".

Yours, not hers.
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Old Oct 5, 2017, 8:50 pm
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Old Oct 5, 2017, 11:11 pm
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I had a middle seat recently. I had no hope of having an armrest. The passenger to my right had headphones that obviously didn't work well for him since he kept turning UP the volume. I could easily hear what he couldn't seem to hear.

I wasn't crazy about his choice of personal viewing material, but it wasn't on my screen. I grabbed my book, asked for a drink when the cart came around and made the best of it. I never once asked him to turn down his volume level (and the person on my other side could hear it) or had any interaction except when I needed to leave my seat and find the restroom. I figure we just coexist for the amount of time we're stuck next to each other.

Sorry to hear that you had a bad experience.
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Old Oct 6, 2017, 10:22 pm
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Old Oct 7, 2017, 9:40 am
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Should have told them that you were already on the path to perdition ... especially as you were on your way home which is Vegas :-))
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Old Oct 7, 2017, 9:43 am
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Originally Posted by aquamarinesteph
I had a middle seat recently. I had no hope of having an armrest. The passenger to my right had headphones that obviously didn't work well for him since he kept turning UP the volume. I could easily hear what he couldn't seem to hear.

I wasn't crazy about his choice of personal viewing material, but it wasn't on my screen. I grabbed my book, asked for a drink when the cart came around and made the best of it. I never once asked him to turn down his volume level (and the person on my other side could hear it) or had any interaction except when I needed to leave my seat and find the restroom. I figure we just coexist for the amount of time we're stuck next to each other.

Sorry to hear that you had a bad experience.
I think it's fair to ask that someone turn down the volume if you can hear what they're listening to on their headphones.
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Old Oct 7, 2017, 2:21 pm
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I really try to mind my own business when flying. Ive only had a memorable experience with a seatmate a few times. As I remember only one was bad.

Many years ago I sit in my first class seat next to an innocuous looking guy. Were on the tarmac (YES!) at LGA and he asks me if how I can have a meaningful life if I havent been saved. This was pure torture but it was LGA-PIT so I endured with the help of medication in the form of alcohol.

Good ones

1) Sat next to Chuck Berry. Very humble, gracious guy

2) Sat in front of Robert Plant very gracious person also.

3) Sat next to a guy on JFK-LHR and we had a good discussion on African safaris

4) Sat next to a woman on NRT - JFK. She was a professional chef and was returning from a womans chef tour of China. Had a very interesting discussion of cooking.

5) Had a flight cancelled and switched to another airline. Took my seat and it was next to a close friend and coworker. Given we were both doing like 250,000 or so miles a year we werent that surprised.

6) Perhaps my most interesting. Seated next to a woman who was on a poetry show, I think on HBO. We discussed the connections between science and art. I had recently been to an art show in London on Leonardo and the Art of the Macabre. We talked about his use of mathematics in his art and other connections (Im a scientist by profession). Absolutely fascinating conversation. I think it was STL-LGA.

As I type this I realize that Ive flown maybe 4 million miles and I wonder what opportunities Ive missed much more than the bores I dodged.
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Old Oct 7, 2017, 3:29 pm
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While news shows of all stripes have become more obnoxious to people who do not share their particular stripes, your seatmate's behavior was out of line. Were you cheering or booing?
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Old Oct 7, 2017, 7:25 pm
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Originally Posted by Often1
Ignore, ignore, and ignore.

No need to even have a conversation about your rights. Just tell them it's none of their business and go back to watching.

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It's not like you were watching porn or Air Crash Investigator.
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Old Oct 7, 2017, 9:48 pm
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Originally Posted by Annalisa12
Air Crash Investigator.


Heh. I seriously thought about loading up a few episodes on my iPad a few trips ago but figured if someone saw it and freaked out I'd end up walking funny for a couple months afterwards.
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Old Oct 7, 2017, 10:01 pm
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