When do rights trump courtesy?
#46
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Had my first "peanut allergy" situation on board recently. 3 rows on both sides of a lady were made "peanut free".
I was mildly perturbed because why should someone else disability become a loss of rights for me. If someone has a peanut disability this bad they shouldn't be flying.
I was mildly perturbed because why should someone else disability become a loss of rights for me. If someone has a peanut disability this bad they shouldn't be flying.
#47
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DFW_Airwolf I know for example when I sleep I sometimes snore... so I always make sure I sleep on my stomach on the plane to prevent snoring and to be courteous to my fellow passengers. I would never think for one minute that my right to sleep also involved my right to make noise while I did so.
However, I think that people need to take a step back and realize that a plane is essentially public transportation, and as a result, you as a passenger are going to be exposed to other people's habits, quirks, sounds, etc. Some people are tall, some are short, some snore, some are louder talkers than others--this is the nature of being among other people, and I think that people have to accept the fact that you will have to endure some mildly annoying realities of this particular mode of travel (yes, a neighbor's snoring or the reclining of the seat in front of you are mild annoyances, nothing more, and those who regard them as major ones are not being realistic).
#48
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Had my first "peanut allergy" situation on board recently. 3 rows on both sides of a lady were made "peanut free".
I was mildly perturbed because why should someone else disability become a loss of rights for me. If someone has a peanut disability this bad they shouldn't be flying.
I was mildly perturbed because why should someone else disability become a loss of rights for me. If someone has a peanut disability this bad they shouldn't be flying.
Or... eat a ton of peanuts; so many that you actually sweat peanut oil. Inform the GA/FA's and let them announce your "condition" to the other pax. Maybe they'll move all those with peanut allergies away from you, maybe even freeing up a whole row to two just for you. Maybe even bump you to F (fewer people to be concerned about).
Last edited by uszkanni; Jun 13, 2011 at 6:19 pm
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DFW_Airwolf - I understand you have lost your sense of smell. I appreciate you did not know about the strong BO. But at the end of the day - did you expect to be carried or the plane to wait for you while you changed clothing?
For me - if there was even a remote possibility that I may have smelled then I wuold have taken action becfore getting on the plane 'just to make sure'. I know for example when I sleep I sometimes snore... so I always make sure I sleep on my stomach on the plane to prevent snoring and to be courteous to my fellow passengers. I would never think for one minute that my right to sleep also involved my right to make noise while I did so.
I agree that rights do trump courtesy, and if I'm having a really bad day then sometimes I will do things which are in my rights because it makes me more comfortable. But I often (later) feel a little bit selfish for doing so. All I have achieved is making 2 people feel bad instead of just me. Hardly worth it.
For me - if there was even a remote possibility that I may have smelled then I wuold have taken action becfore getting on the plane 'just to make sure'. I know for example when I sleep I sometimes snore... so I always make sure I sleep on my stomach on the plane to prevent snoring and to be courteous to my fellow passengers. I would never think for one minute that my right to sleep also involved my right to make noise while I did so.
I agree that rights do trump courtesy, and if I'm having a really bad day then sometimes I will do things which are in my rights because it makes me more comfortable. But I often (later) feel a little bit selfish for doing so. All I have achieved is making 2 people feel bad instead of just me. Hardly worth it.
That said, some people are more sensitive than others, while some are more aware of another's odour than their own.
#50
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Reclining your seat all the way back into another passenger's knees is obnoxious, whether or not you have the "right" to do so.
How I wish airlines would simply remove the "recline" button entirely and eliminate this topic as a point of contention.
#51
Join Date: Dec 2011
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Had my first "peanut allergy" situation on board recently. 3 rows on both sides of a lady were made "peanut free".
I was mildly perturbed because why should someone else disability become a loss of rights for me. If someone has a peanut disability this bad they shouldn't be flying.
I was mildly perturbed because why should someone else disability become a loss of rights for me. If someone has a peanut disability this bad they shouldn't be flying.
You not being able to eat peanuts is not a loss of a "right." There is no "right" to eat peanuts. Its a privilege.
Maybe they shouldn't be flying, maybe they shouldn't be allowed to take a train, maybe they shouldn't be allowed out in public at all! Lets just keep them contained in a bubble! In their own homes!
#52
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Do you think that someone boarding an airplane before you, can just sit in your seat and ask you, as a courtesy, that you take their seat?
Or the wide shouldered, just encroach on your space with no attempt to minimize the encroachment?
Or the person that stores their carry on bags under the seat in front of you?
Courtesy is not going along with someone's exaggerated opinion of the themselves, their importance and their space as imposed upon you without your consent.
Or the wide shouldered, just encroach on your space with no attempt to minimize the encroachment?
Or the person that stores their carry on bags under the seat in front of you?
Courtesy is not going along with someone's exaggerated opinion of the themselves, their importance and their space as imposed upon you without your consent.
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That's a good analogy.
Reclining your seat all the way back into another passenger's knees is obnoxious, whether or not you have the "right" to do so.
How I wish airlines would simply remove the "recline" button entirely and eliminate this topic as a point of contention.
Reclining your seat all the way back into another passenger's knees is obnoxious, whether or not you have the "right" to do so.
How I wish airlines would simply remove the "recline" button entirely and eliminate this topic as a point of contention.
I don't always recline my seat but sometimes I really want to recline. I an empathise with tall people. Since I am not tall, nor do I have long legs, I do not know for sure about how uncomfortable it is for someone who has tall legs.
Is it really an issue or is it just a matter of preference? I have the sme feelings about people with peanut allergies.
#54
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Having flown on planes where the seat in front of me reclined to the point where the forward pax's head is just about in my lap and there is no way to get out of the seat without using said pax's head as a handhold (I exaggerate, but not by much), I'd like to blame the airlines for using seats with a ridiculous amt of recline, but: when I am in one of those seats and want to recline, I try to be respectful of the space of the people behind me as well. While it might be my right to crank that puppy all the way back, it's neither polite nor even reasonable.
#55
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The poster had showered that morning, I think that is pretty reasonable, not bad hygine. Had the poster not showered for 4 days, that would be unreasonable of them. If you can't smell, then how do you know if you smell? The poster had showered, presumably used deodorant, but their activities made them sweat. Unless you get someone to sniff you and tell you, how do you know?
My son has Asperger's and ADHD, and I've made it very clear to him: his condition is an explanation, not an excuse. He has to work harder than neurotypical kids his age because he's not wired the same way they are. Again, is it fair? No. Again, it's life.
The poster wasn't discriminated against because of his disability. Like it or not, his hygiene at that point in time was lacking, and that's why he was removed from the flight. I have a very low tolerance for people who pull the discrimination card where it's not warranted.
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That's a good analogy.
Reclining your seat all the way back into another passenger's knees is obnoxious, whether or not you have the "right" to do so.
How I wish airlines would simply remove the "recline" button entirely and eliminate this topic as a point of contention.
Reclining your seat all the way back into another passenger's knees is obnoxious, whether or not you have the "right" to do so.
How I wish airlines would simply remove the "recline" button entirely and eliminate this topic as a point of contention.
#57
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I don't know where this ridiculous idea comes from that people have a 'right' to recline. Yes, the seat may have a capacity to recline, but that doesn't make it a right.
In the TV in the hotel situation - if you play the volume too loud and disturb others and don't turn the volume down at the request of others/management, you can be arrested for disturbing the peace.
Rights are important things - most of them are enshrined in Constitutions - some of them may be god-given, if you believe in a deity - but I doubt any ethicist, legal scholar, or theologian would include reclining on an airplane among them.
Otherwise there may be rules, contractual agreements, privileges, but let's not confuse them with rights.
Calling something less than fundamental a right is often a way for the discourteous to justify their discourtesy.
In the TV in the hotel situation - if you play the volume too loud and disturb others and don't turn the volume down at the request of others/management, you can be arrested for disturbing the peace.
Rights are important things - most of them are enshrined in Constitutions - some of them may be god-given, if you believe in a deity - but I doubt any ethicist, legal scholar, or theologian would include reclining on an airplane among them.
Otherwise there may be rules, contractual agreements, privileges, but let's not confuse them with rights.
Calling something less than fundamental a right is often a way for the discourteous to justify their discourtesy.
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I don't know where this ridiculous idea comes from that people have a 'right' to recline. Yes, the seat may have a capacity to recline, but that doesn't make it a right.
In the TV in the hotel situation - if you play the volume too loud and disturb others and don't turn the volume down at the request of others/management, you can be arrested for disturbing the peace.
Rights are important things - most of them are enshrined in Constitutions - some of them may be god-given, if you believe in a deity - but I doubt any ethicist, legal scholar, or theologian would include reclining on an airplane among them.
Otherwise there may be rules, contractual agreements, privileges, but let's not confuse them with rights.
Calling something less than fundamental a right is often a way for the discourteous to justify their discourtesy.
In the TV in the hotel situation - if you play the volume too loud and disturb others and don't turn the volume down at the request of others/management, you can be arrested for disturbing the peace.
Rights are important things - most of them are enshrined in Constitutions - some of them may be god-given, if you believe in a deity - but I doubt any ethicist, legal scholar, or theologian would include reclining on an airplane among them.
Otherwise there may be rules, contractual agreements, privileges, but let's not confuse them with rights.
Calling something less than fundamental a right is often a way for the discourteous to justify their discourtesy.
Curious, do you politely protest if the person in front of you reclines? I've personally never seen an argument coming out of a passenger reclining..
#59
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For myself, I've never really thought about it.. just if I need to recline because of my tiredness and make it a point to slowly recline a bit at a time, so that I don't catch the person behind me off guard..
Curious, do you politely protest if the person in front of you reclines? I've personally never seen an argument coming out of a passenger reclining..
Curious, do you politely protest if the person in front of you reclines? I've personally never seen an argument coming out of a passenger reclining..
If reclining is important for you because you are tall or tired, I think that your approach seems courteous and thoughtful. Absent a serious objection to someone reclining, I don't see why people shouldn't indulge. My concern is simply this idea that because a seat reclines, an individual has an absolute 'right' to do it, regardless of the the problems that it may cause others. By necessity (unless you are flying alone in a private plane), space aboard a plane is shared, and consequently there must be some give and take.
I think that too often conflict on planes happens not because two people really have conflicting needs (as opposed to desires) but because someone is insisting on having something that they could easily do without, just because they think it is a 'right'.
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Yes reclining slowly is very important. Some seats, however, defeat your effort.