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Apr 27, 2010, 7:02 pm
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Given the trainwreck that a thread in Omni became when someone asked for dating advice recently 
, I'd say h*ll to the no to the idea of a dating forum w/in FT.
And really - FT is supposed to become match.com, really? I mean seriously?
OVMV. Cheers.
, I'd say h*ll to the no to the idea of a dating forum w/in FT. And really - FT is supposed to become match.com, really? I mean seriously?
OVMV. Cheers.
Apr 27, 2010, 9:35 pm
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Apr 28, 2010, 12:18 am
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Here's what I see is the problem of creating a dating forum:
Match and other websites of the like are there for that very purpose. Look for compatible people to go out with. All parties involved are looking, and contact is pretty much direct between interested people. Sure, you may run across a friend or coworker profile.. but again, everyone is there for the same reason. But its not a community. Match girls aren't getting together over BBQ to talk about the Match boys, or vice versa. The likelihood that the two daters will have mutual friends (virtual or real) is slim. And its not likely that your friends (unless you've given them access to your profile) know who you're looking at, or who's looking at you.
FT is totally different. We are a community who all have the similar interest of travel... and because of that similar interest, there have been many a happy match made, and thats awesome.
But because we are a community, I see having a dating "forum" about as appropriate as posting a personal ad on your office bulletin board. There is a level of visibility and voyeurism in an open forum that would be a recipe for potential disaster. Its available to too many eyes (and keyboards) that aren't actually involved in the process.
The TOS prohibits threads about and personal attacks against other members. But what happens when a date that comes out of this proposed forum goes bad, or a member gets jilted? When emotions run high, the temptation to lash out or "warn people" either publicly or privately is going to be high as well.
It's been said before, but if you are looking to date someone in the community, then the best way to do that is to be an active part of the community. Pop into chat, go to Do's, make sure you put your itineraries on the calendar.
Match and other websites of the like are there for that very purpose. Look for compatible people to go out with. All parties involved are looking, and contact is pretty much direct between interested people. Sure, you may run across a friend or coworker profile.. but again, everyone is there for the same reason. But its not a community. Match girls aren't getting together over BBQ to talk about the Match boys, or vice versa. The likelihood that the two daters will have mutual friends (virtual or real) is slim. And its not likely that your friends (unless you've given them access to your profile) know who you're looking at, or who's looking at you.
FT is totally different. We are a community who all have the similar interest of travel... and because of that similar interest, there have been many a happy match made, and thats awesome.
But because we are a community, I see having a dating "forum" about as appropriate as posting a personal ad on your office bulletin board. There is a level of visibility and voyeurism in an open forum that would be a recipe for potential disaster. Its available to too many eyes (and keyboards) that aren't actually involved in the process.
The TOS prohibits threads about and personal attacks against other members. But what happens when a date that comes out of this proposed forum goes bad, or a member gets jilted? When emotions run high, the temptation to lash out or "warn people" either publicly or privately is going to be high as well.
It's been said before, but if you are looking to date someone in the community, then the best way to do that is to be an active part of the community. Pop into chat, go to Do's, make sure you put your itineraries on the calendar.
Apr 28, 2010, 8:10 am
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Yeah, what she said! 
Cheers.
Cheers.
Apr 28, 2010, 9:16 am
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Inspiration from "Up in the air", where MR and Infidelity comes together?
Apr 28, 2010, 9:31 am
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Why is this thread still active?
FT doesn't need a dating forum. There are plenty of alternatives.
FT doesn't need a dating forum. There are plenty of alternatives.
Apr 28, 2010, 10:54 am
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Apr 28, 2010, 1:59 pm
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This is not an idea I would advance.
Apr 29, 2010, 12:55 pm
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Please no! This would be everybody competing with or for George Clooney. Let them go to those other social sites not FT.
Apr 29, 2010, 3:38 pm
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Apr 29, 2010, 3:44 pm
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Apr 29, 2010, 4:43 pm
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The fun would be watching everyone trying to work out the gender of the person they are chatting up
(But I thought Missy's post summed it up perfectly).
(But I thought Missy's post summed it up perfectly).
Apr 30, 2010, 4:52 pm
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How about bidding miles for dates or better yet mail order brides/grooms in exchange for airline miles.