whose miles are they?!
 

I have a question, please forgive me if it has been answered elsewhere.

You join an Internet programme on the basis of a friend's referral. By doing so, you are both entered into a contest to win airline miles.

You win a whole mess of miles. Your friend wins nothing.

Your friend refers to your prize as "our" miles and tries continually to butter you up to give/sell at deep discount your miles to his friends and relations, on trips that you are not invited on.

Never mind that you had plans to spend your miles doing something else for yourself, your family, your special someone. You have already spent a few on trips for yourself.

Whose miles are they?! I believe they are MINE and as an only child, I don't share well. Other opinions appreciated.

Obviously, they are your miles....

Just because someone refers you, does not mean they deserve anything you win.

How many miles and what contest are you talking about?

William

They're in your account aren't they?
If so, then they are clearly your miles.
In any case, you friend can't give them away if they are in your account. Unless he/she impersonates you on the phone I suppose.....

Definitely yours and yours alone. You shouldn't be made to feel uncomfortable or obligated just because you won and he/she didn't.

If I went to the casino with my buddy and he drove me there and while we were walkign around suggested that I throw $10 on the roulette and I won, I might buy him a drink or dinner, but I sure wouldn't split the winnings with him. And I don't think that a good and conscientious friend would ask.

Sheesh.

peace,
~Ben~

Definitely yours. If I won enough I would maybe invite the friend away for a weekend, but with that attitude I definitely wouldn't.

never buy a lottery ticket for anyone... unless you have known and trusted that person for something like 20 years. In this case, too bad the promo didnt give the friend miles for referring you. You could offer to him or her, but they can never ask. that is std. friend/karma/winnings rules in my book.

If he had been nice, I MAY have considered giving him some to go on a trip. However, he is basically a sore loser and is jealous that you won and he didn't. Well that's just too bad. I would ask him if the shoe was on the other foot and he had won, would he have been as generous as he is asking you to be. I seriously would doubt it if he was being honest with you.

Even if you came from a family of 12 siblings, I would still have trouble sharing in this case.

I would E-Mail or print out this thread and show him what strangers have to say concerning this. He needs to "cool his jets"!!!

Hopefully, this will not ruin your friendship. If it does, then he is BOTH a sore loser AND not really your friend.

P.S. CONGRATULATONS on your good fortune and HAPPY FLYING!!!

They are yours.

A good friend would never ask for them.

I'm rolling the dice at the craps table at the Mandalay for a long time and making money for everyone. My friend bets $5 of his own money on hard eight for me, the shooter. I hit hard eight and the bet wins a bunch of money for ME. My friend asks for his $5 back, so I gladly give it back out of courtesy, but we both knew that the winnings were all mine.

Your friend should have referred his wife or children or parents if he wanted to keep the miles in the family. Take him out to dinner and you're even.

Hey Buddy,

We live in the same hemisphere & we post on the same bulletin board - lemme get some of our miles! ;)

Maxim to live by: If you loan a friend $20 and you never see him again it was $20 well spent.

If you lose your friend over this he was never a true friend.

Chances are that you friend recieved an "extra entry" into the contest by refering you. That was the reward for refering you. You won the miles with your entry, they lost with their entries. My account, my miles.

Hey, if you go fly a lot, you'll get a lot of miles. I think I should get some for giving you that lead. ;)

The miles are yours.



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A friend gave me $10 to put on #26 at the roulette table. I walked in, threw down $10 on #26 and won $350.

Then I played his bet...

You do owe your friend. Refer him on the next contest you enter. Now you are even.


Judge Judy Solomon

Thank you everyone!
 

Thank you Flyers for being on my side! Hugs all around. If it wasn't so hot I'd bake a cake too! :D

The miles were awarded to celebrate the launch of points.com . I won enough miles for (at the time) 12 business / 25 economy trips to the USA, deposited directly into my account. I have flown twice since then (Nashville and Las Vegas, business class, both for conventions) using points for me and my mom.

I want to use the points to make more trips MYSELF (cake shows, phonecard shows, somewhere interesting like Ireland or Australia), and also if I can get things patched up with my bf (Omaha) then visit him some more and he can come see me too when he stops being terrified of leaving the country and experiencing a little culture shock. (but that's fodder for another thread)

If the shoe were on the other foot, I may have suggested a trip together but I would have no expectations. He gave me a points ticket some years ago to fly to Toronto (cattle class, lost luggage and all) for a phonecard show, so we could exhibit together. But I didn;t ask/beg for that ticket.

So now I feel much better saying MINE MINE ALL MINE HAHAHAHAHA! :D I still dream about that hot fudge sundae at 29,000 feet, somewhere between DFW and YUL last year....