Madame or Mademoiselle?
Dear Francophone Friends,
I am meeting up with a friend of mine in Paris in January. She is unmarried and we are both 'of a certain age'. How would I refer to her, for instance, when ordering a meal on her behalf with a waiter? Mme or Mlle? Seems that calling her just Elle in her presence is abrupt/rude, or is that proper? Thank you T2 |
Originally Posted by tartetatin2
(Post 25739392)
Dear Francophone Friends,
I am meeting up with a friend of mine in Paris in January. She is unmarried and we are both 'of a certain age'. How would I refer to her, for instance, when ordering a meal on her behalf with a waiter? Mme or Mlle? Seems that calling her just Elle in her presence is abrupt/rude, or is that proper? Thank you T2 You're correct that you should refer to her as Madame, not elle, when ordering for her. Other people at your table are Monsieur/ce Monsieur, Madame/cette Madame, ce jeune homme, Mademoiselle, cette jeune fille. |
Originally Posted by ajGoes
(Post 25739428)
She is Madame. Mademoiselle is used less and less, and I think never for women older than 25 or so.
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Most helpful!
Merci à vous. |
I only use mademoiselle for teenage girls.
I read an article a couple years ago about how single women are pushing for a change in a law or policy because they must be referred to as mademoiselle by banks and government institutions no matter what their age. |
Originally Posted by tartetatin2
(Post 25739392)
Dear Francophone Friends,
I am meeting up with a friend of mine in Paris in January. She is unmarried and we are both 'of a certain age'. How would I refer to her, for instance, when ordering a meal on her behalf with a waiter? Mme or Mlle? Seems that calling her just Elle in her presence is abrupt/rude, or is that proper? T2 |
Originally Posted by dlffla
(Post 25745757)
You could always ask her what title she prefers. Some older women still prefer the Mlle title. Or you could refer to her as "Mon amie".
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My partner gave me heck some 3 1/2 years ago because I addressed the (very) young waitress as madame. Talked to some friends in the Basque country a year or so later and they say it's now accepted/polite to address adults as monsieur or madame respectively, and as mentioned above, some want to codify it.
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Originally Posted by Yahillwe
(Post 25745777)
Hum I don't think so, it wouldn't pass very well. Madame is best.
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Originally Posted by dlffla
(Post 25748257)
Why not? I'm French and it would be fine.
Originally Posted by Yahillwe
(Post 25745777)
Hum I don't think so, it wouldn't pass very well. Madame is best.
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Originally Posted by dlffla
(Post 25748257)
Why not? I'm French and it would be fine.
Younger people (50s and under) the man would never dream for ordering for the lady. |
Originally Posted by Yahillwe
(Post 25749861)
Tell you why, he is ordering (or going to) that indicates that they are mature people, and that doesn't work for such an age group, respectfully wise.
Younger people (50s and under) the man would never dream for ordering for the lady. |
Hello, I'm back.
We are both women in our 60's, and my friend speaks no French. I frequently order for my husband or other travel companions, once I translate the carte to them and get their choices. Your input is appreciated. I will ask my friend which salutation she prefers. |
Originally Posted by tartetatin2
(Post 25751002)
Hello, I'm back.
We are both women in our 60's, and my friend speaks no French. I frequently order for my husband or other travel companions, once I translate the carte to them and get their choices. Your input is appreciated. I will ask my friend which salutation she prefers. |
Originally Posted by ajGoes
(Post 25751212)
The server would address her as Madame in any case. I'd save them a potentially uncomfortable struggle and use Madame.
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