Does your spouse sit in First?
Nov 23, 2018, 10:35 am
#16
Join Date: Jan 2006
Location: Brooklyn, NY
Programs: DL PM / SPG Gold
Posts: 562
I'm not married, but if I'm flying with any female, co-worker, sister, friend's wife, in-law, etc., I always defer my F seat to her.
One, it just seems like the right thing to do as a man. Two, depending on the person, it usually is really special to her. Three, I usually then get to fly with another guy and catch up during the flight.
One, it just seems like the right thing to do as a man. Two, depending on the person, it usually is really special to her. Three, I usually then get to fly with another guy and catch up during the flight.
Why are these not the right actions to take as a man for other men?
Nov 23, 2018, 2:28 pm
#17
Join Date: Feb 2010
Location: US-Europe
Programs: DL DM Charter/2.5MM, AA EXP, Marriott AMB, LT Titanium, HH Diamond, Avis PP, National Exec-E
Posts: 529
When I don't buy FC for the family or we all don't get UG'd, I will sometimes give my UG to Mrs. SYRRDU, sometimes she tells me to keep it and sometimes we all sit together in the back and I give my FC seat to the person that had the seat where I choose to sit (I am sure that is P-Offs the person #1 on the UG list)
Nov 23, 2018, 2:29 pm
#18
Join Date: Feb 2004
Location: LAS
Programs: DL PM, Honors Gold, Marriott Gold, AA Gold
Posts: 894
depends on the flight. if it's a long trip we will usually pass on the upgrade and sit together. for short flights we are ok to be split up. sometimes i'm generous and give him the upgrade. sometimes I'm selfish and keep it.
Nov 23, 2018, 3:29 pm
#19
Join Date: Sep 2016
Location: HSV
Programs: Bellevue Lifetime Premiere Mega Elite Supreme
Posts: 1,509
Heck with that. If I'm flying with an associate or my wife, no way both of us are going to be miserable. In the case of friends, associates, etc -- if I'm upgraded and they're not, I'm flying up front. In the case where it's my wife, we arm wrestle for it -- fair's fair.
So far, I'm undefeated.
So far, I'm undefeated.
Nov 23, 2018, 3:57 pm
#21
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Join Date: Jun 2015
Location: Back in Reds Country (DAY/CVG). Previously: SEA & SAT.
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I guess that's a matter of perspective and preferences. My wife has pushed hard for me to keep my UG and fly in F, even if she's in Y. She's even taken my seat in Y and given up her UG (which albeit, cleared with my RUC, when we were on separate tickets and she cleared into the last seat while I didn't clear). Why? Mrs. ATOBTTR is 5'1. I am 6'4, with most of it in my legs. She knows she's fine in regular economy when it comes to legroom and especially more than okay if she's in the exit row of C+ (her favorite seat is 21A/D on the 737-900). On the other hand, even C+ is somewhat tight for me. So on more than one occasion I have ridden up front while she's back in economy. If it's a meal flight for F, she's more than fine with me making up for it by buying her a Buy-on-Board meal as my "thank you" to her for letting me sit in a more comfortable seat.
Nov 23, 2018, 4:03 pm
#22
Join Date: Sep 2016
Location: HSV
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Nov 23, 2018, 4:14 pm
#23
Join Date: Aug 2012
Posts: 6,752
This has nothing to do with the relationship per se. While I can't speak for Scott, some of us were brought up during an era where it's simply proper manners and etiquette. I can't imagine sitting in F, while my wife is in coach. This is just a concept unimaginable to me.
Nov 23, 2018, 4:27 pm
#24
Join Date: Oct 2016
Location: LIT
Programs: Blinged Out
Posts: 716
DM/PM couple here- 75% of the time, we book Y then get C+ instantly. When the deal is right, or we want F (longer flights/bad equipment), we book F.
When we get split on an upgrade, I will defer to my wife, but I get the lone empty seat most of the time simply because my wife HATES bulkheads in F.
She takes the upgrade when it’s anything other than bulkhead F though...
BTW, we are both mature adults- we can sit apart on a plane for a few hours and not lose our minds. I’ve had to give up my C+ seat to sit in a far back aisle so I didn’t swim upstream getting my luggage on a tight connection numerous times. Same for splitting up to accomodate families- not a huge deal to us...
When we get split on an upgrade, I will defer to my wife, but I get the lone empty seat most of the time simply because my wife HATES bulkheads in F.
She takes the upgrade when it’s anything other than bulkhead F though...
BTW, we are both mature adults- we can sit apart on a plane for a few hours and not lose our minds. I’ve had to give up my C+ seat to sit in a far back aisle so I didn’t swim upstream getting my luggage on a tight connection numerous times. Same for splitting up to accomodate families- not a huge deal to us...
Nov 23, 2018, 5:20 pm
#25
Join Date: Sep 2016
Location: HSV
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This has nothing to do with the relationship per se. While I can't speak for Scott, some of us were brought up during an era where it's simply proper manners and etiquette. I can't imagine sitting in F, while my wife is in coach. This is just a concept unimaginable to me.
Different strokes.
Nov 23, 2018, 5:45 pm
#26
Join Date: Jul 2006
Location: Earth (non-US)
Programs: NW Gold->CO->UA->DL PM
Posts: 1,335
Speaking of which, I expect about $250 for the upgrade AMS->ORD.
Nov 23, 2018, 8:36 pm
#27
Join Date: Dec 2007
Programs: DL, Hilton, National
Posts: 841
I'd like to think that chivalry and courtesy are timeless.
Nov 24, 2018, 12:30 am
#28
Join Date: Jul 2006
Location: Earth (non-US)
Programs: NW Gold->CO->UA->DL PM
Posts: 1,335
I'm 6'1" and I'll spare you the list of injuries, since they're not so much if I don't ignore them. If I were 5'6" and facing a 6'1" female with the same, all else equal, I'd let the female take the bigger seat. Else I'm hopping back with drinks, which no FA on a domestic DL flight seems to have a problems with (watch out for Republic, of course).
Nov 24, 2018, 5:40 am
#29
Join Date: Oct 2009
Location: West Chester, OH
Programs: Delta SM, Hilton Honors Diamond, Marriott Silver
Posts: 254
I guess that's a matter of perspective and preferences. My wife has pushed hard for me to keep my UG and fly in F, even if she's in Y. She's even taken my seat in Y and given up her UG (which albeit, cleared with my RUC, when we were on separate tickets and she cleared into the last seat while I didn't clear). Why? Mrs. ATOBTTR is 5'1. I am 6'4, with most of it in my legs. She knows she's fine in regular economy when it comes to legroom and especially more than okay if she's in the exit row of C+ (her favorite seat is 21A/D on the 737-900). On the other hand, even C+ is somewhat tight for me. So on more than one occasion I have ridden up front while she's back in economy. If it's a meal flight for F, she's more than fine with me making up for it by buying her a Buy-on-Board meal as my "thank you" to her for letting me sit in a more comfortable seat.
Nov 24, 2018, 5:45 am
#30
Join Date: Oct 2009
Location: West Chester, OH
Programs: Delta SM, Hilton Honors Diamond, Marriott Silver
Posts: 254
Not really looking for your sympathy, my relationship is just fine thanks. That's in large part due to the fact that I try to be a decent person and consider other people and not just myself. Generally goes a longer way with relationships than arm wrestling does.