Possibly flying from one “hot spot” to another.
Mar 30, 2020, 9:30 am
#16
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Option 4
If they need to marry asap, for whatever reason, they should do without asking family to travel and postpone any "in person" celebration to better times.
If they need to marry asap, for whatever reason, they should do without asking family to travel and postpone any "in person" celebration to better times.
Mar 30, 2020, 10:37 am
#17
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Seriously. I couldn't ask my family to travel right now for my wedding. That's insane, especially with older parents involved as well. At the risk of over-generalizing and not knowing 100% of the situation, this sounds selfish of the soon-to-be newlyweds. I would encourage OP to not go, if only because I'm sure at least one other requested attendee is having second thoughts, and I'm sure seeing another person opt out of attending would make them feel better about doing the same.
Mar 30, 2020, 10:48 am
#18
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Just don't go - it's heartbreaking, but is it work risking the health of yourself, those 10 other people, and (potentially) many many others if someone becomes infected?
I can't fathom why someone would *ask* for others to travel right now, especially around areas with confirmed and widespread community transmission. It's one thing to invite, but to make the request seems selfish and risky.
Just don't go. Zoom, Facetime, send a Facebook Portal as a wedding present and drop in every day - whatever it is, but it's best for everyone to not go.
I can't fathom why someone would *ask* for others to travel right now, especially around areas with confirmed and widespread community transmission. It's one thing to invite, but to make the request seems selfish and risky.
Just don't go. Zoom, Facetime, send a Facebook Portal as a wedding present and drop in every day - whatever it is, but it's best for everyone to not go.
Mar 30, 2020, 10:48 am
#19
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At the risk of sounding simultaneously flippant and callous, attending a wedding may hasten a funeral.
Stay home, have the happy couple Skype (etc.) it, and let rip with a proper shindig when the virus crisis is far in the rear view mirror.
Stay home, have the happy couple Skype (etc.) it, and let rip with a proper shindig when the virus crisis is far in the rear view mirror.
Mar 30, 2020, 10:52 am
#20
Join Date: Jun 2011
Location: SFO
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This. And each of those 12 people could infect more people, who could each then infect more people, and so on. I am constantly surprised by how often people seem to be considering only the risk to themselves, not the spread of the pandemic. Flatten the curve, exponential spread...these are not just idle phrases. (I'm speaking here from my third week under the Bay Area's stay-at-home order.)
Mar 30, 2020, 11:17 am
#21
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I appreciate everyone's honest input.
Mar 30, 2020, 11:24 am
#22
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Agree with all the above. You might not even be able to drive as there are some early reports of highway checkpoints at state borders, and it's just not worth it even for a family event.
One suggestion, the couple could have a party and do a ceremony when things get back to normal. Then you'll be able to attend that and won't have missed anything
One suggestion, the couple could have a party and do a ceremony when things get back to normal. Then you'll be able to attend that and won't have missed anything
Mar 30, 2020, 11:34 am
#23
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Stay home. With eldery parents present, too high of a chance of creating the converse of "Four Weddings and a Funeral" --> "A Wedding and Four Funerals"
Mar 30, 2020, 11:35 am
#24
Join Date: May 2008
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If attendance is a must I would suggest going without the family in tow.
It would lessen the chances dramatically of someone getting infected. Self-isolation upon returning home would be a must too.
It would lessen the chances dramatically of someone getting infected. Self-isolation upon returning home would be a must too.
Mar 30, 2020, 11:46 am
#25
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Before considering this, be sure to check the website where you can click on the state name and see cases, deaths, etc. by county. You seem to be assuming that only NOLA and Detroit are the areas of concern, but the data could surprise you. [For instance, I know that some of the hotspots in Wisconsin are not places one would expect to be especially risky.]
Mar 30, 2020, 12:19 pm
#26
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Honestly, I would cancel. I would say their is a pretty good chance that once you land you will be given a "request" to self quarantine for 14 days.
Mar 30, 2020, 12:21 pm
#27
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Mar 30, 2020, 12:24 pm
#28
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Unless you are travelling to cure covid-19 or something, stay the heck home, please.
Skype wedding! Honeymoons are way better without needing to be hooked up to a vent.
My buddy married his wife for health insurance on paper and postponed the ceremony, even his priest and extremely Catholic mother approved.
Skype wedding! Honeymoons are way better without needing to be hooked up to a vent.
My buddy married his wife for health insurance on paper and postponed the ceremony, even his priest and extremely Catholic mother approved.
Mar 30, 2020, 12:31 pm
#29
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Some of the first reported deaths in New Jersey were four members of a family who had attended a family wedding. The ceremony does not a marriage make. Tell them you love them enough not to come. If they want a big celebration, then have one after this is all over, maybe a first anniversary party. I say this as somebody who spent the weekend cancelling reservations for a big family celebration in May. It's just not worth it. I love them too much and I assume from your post you do too.
Mar 30, 2020, 12:40 pm
#30
Join Date: Jul 2014
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Unless you are travelling to cure covid-19 or something, stay the heck home, please.
Skype wedding! Honeymoons are way better without needing to be hooked up to a vent.
My buddy married his wife for health insurance on paper and postponed the ceremony, even his priest and extremely Catholic mother approved.
Skype wedding! Honeymoons are way better without needing to be hooked up to a vent.
My buddy married his wife for health insurance on paper and postponed the ceremony, even his priest and extremely Catholic mother approved.