Advice please - am I being selfish?
 

Hi All

Unless the Qualiflyer FFP goes bust (always a risk!!) I am about to get a great bonus that will allow me (with other points I have) to go to Oz from the UK in C Class.

I will take two seperate awards. One to Asia and one Asia-Oz.

Now, I will have some points left. I have offered a friend (who incidentally lives in my spare room rent free!) the chance to coem on the Asian portion.

He would have to travel Y class (I don't have enough points for him to travel C too).

He is not happy with me travelling C when he is on the same plane in Y. He suggests that, if we do this, I travel in Y too. As you would expect, I am keen to travel C if I can.

Now, I will probably end up paying the land costs for us both as well as giving him a free Y ticket.

He says it is very rude and selfish of me to travel C if he's in Y.

Am I a bad person?

Advice please.

Stephen

I personally would feel guilty inviting a friend along and offering him less than what I was using myself, but people getting free stuff shouldnt be *****ing. He can stay home then.

No, you are not selfish. You are very generous. Don't let what your "friend" says make you feel guilty.

Better yet, find another friend who will truly appreciate the offer.

Stephen,

Follow your instincts, I also bump into these problems every now and then, although I also enjoy the luxury of C it can't always be done, as it's only for a couple of hours I can't see any harm being done, there are also situations where I certainly want to travel with my companion.

As this person thinks it would be rude for you to enjoy your hard earned miles I think it would be wise to seriously consider travelling together at all, unless of course it's someone you *want* to sit together with...

Scott

Based on those comments in and of themselves, I would immediately withdraw my invitation and invite someone that appreciates a most kind and generous offer. I would be concerned that my home and possessions remain safe and intact during my trip. I would also start charging rent for that spare room. No, on second thought I would give him 30 days notice to vacate!!!



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Give a person a fish, feed him for a day. Teach him how to fish, feed him for a lifetime.

Selfish?

How can you possibly believe you are being selfish?

You are making a very kind offer... and the person chooses to tell you how selfish you are being? I tell you... you should be selfish and rescind that offer (as MRLimo said) and offer it to someone who will truly appreciate it. (MY personal email can be found by clicking on the envelope icon... I will not be selfish...!!!).

William

Hey, sjharte, I'll be your friend and accept a free coach ticket to Australia. http://www.flyertalk.com/forum/biggrin.gif

Sorry Punki, with me being a fellow Scotsman I think I have the edge over you http://www.flyertalk.com/forum/wink.gif

All I could think of was the following; As to answer your question if it was me I would flip a coin.

Wow. Talk about biteing the hand that feeds you. I agree with the other posters, get a new roommate and a new friend.

Perhaps I'm way off base here and I mean no offense whatsoever, but if someone is living in your home "scott" free, then my first inclination is to think that he is more than just a roommate. If this is the case, then I would feel quite guilty about making him sit in steerage. If, however, he really is just a roommate, I agree with everyone else above. Uninvite the ingrate.

Your friend should be grateful. You were right in being upfront about being able to only provide a coach class ticket. It was very generous of you to offer.

I think this person is taking advantage of you. Why not put your efforts into someone who will appreciate it?

Not to defend the roommate, but perhaps, he just doesn't want to be alone. I don't mean to sound offensive, but some people are very... clingy (not including significant others). I've had friends who had to be with me every single moment - stuff like,

"I am going to walk around a bit..."
"Oh yeah, good idea! Me too!"

Or
"I have to go use the washroom."
"Me too. Wait for me!"

Personally, I hate this... I want my independence (which is why I fly solo a lot of the time).

So perhaps your friend is just a clingy person who can't bare sitting by himself (coach or even F) for a dozen hours? Instead of admitting it, he uses the not being in C as an excuse?

Just a possibility to throw out... as to the original question, you are definitely not being selfish. Very generous of you!

[This message has been edited by keithguy (edited 04-13-2002).]

@@Ditto....Great minds think alike, ILP! http://www.flyertalk.com/forum/smile.gif

Is he 'just' a roommate?

Hmmm.... I always let Hubby sits up front, whenever situations like this accur. Is Hubby selfish? http://www.flyertalk.com/forum/wink.gif

There's your answer.