A genuine question for rude BA passengers
#1
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A genuine question for rude BA passengers
Having witnessed yet another rude passenger on the Rio to Heathrow flight, I wonder whether crews or fellow passengers can start asking these individuals whether they are on medication. It's uncomfortable to watch unreasonable adult behaviours which this time involved a lady loudly demanding that the captain came to speak to her about the lack of choice in starters and desserts. It later turned into demands that her friend in Y should be given the spare CW seat next to her. Should crews be able to discreetly ask someone whether the person is on medication? Would crews add a note to the passenger records to reflect possible mental health issues and erratic behaviours rather than just "rude" or "unruly"?
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Um. No. Many regular prescriptions are for fairly mundane things unconnected to mental health, and unlikely to cause behavioural issues as a side effect. The only way to use this as an excuse would be to start digging into what kind of medication, and for what. That could never be a good thing.
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What a strange assumption. I am on plenty of medication, and none of it makes me rude or unruly. Nor do mental health issues make me rude and unruly.
Perhaps a note in the system that someone is a total plonker, but if a member of the crew asked me if I were on medication Id be shocked. If a fellow passenger asked me, Id be inclined to reply that it was none of their business.
Perhaps a note in the system that someone is a total plonker, but if a member of the crew asked me if I were on medication Id be shocked. If a fellow passenger asked me, Id be inclined to reply that it was none of their business.
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It's uncomfortable to watch unreasonable adult behaviours which this time involved a lady loudly demanding that the captain came to speak to her about the lack of choice in starters and desserts. It later turned into demands that her friend in Y should be given the spare CW seat next to her.
Frequently - perhaps usually - it is nothing more than an inability to understand that whatever cabin you're flying in, in reality you're almost certainly merely an unimportant number to BA, to be processed and carried along with thousands of indistinguishable others.
So many people can't cope with that, and deal very badly with it when they are reminded of it, but that is a long way from true mental illness (and it would be unfortunate and perhaps dangerous to trivialise mental illness in this way).
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I can see where you are coming from, in that when someone is behaving weirdly, it does make you wonder if it's caused by something, be it medication or alcohol or whatever*, or whether the person is just plain rude and weird.
However, I don't think asking that question to a rude person would get anywhere.
*Rather than the implication that they have an underlying medical conditions such as a mental illness, the question here is, did they take something that might have affected their normal inhibition, e.g. anxiolytic, sleeping tablets, alcohol, or both etc.
However, I don't think asking that question to a rude person would get anywhere.
*Rather than the implication that they have an underlying medical conditions such as a mental illness, the question here is, did they take something that might have affected their normal inhibition, e.g. anxiolytic, sleeping tablets, alcohol, or both etc.
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Many countries have regulations to the effect that someone's medical records are private and confidential. It's none of your business.
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The way I handle rude customers is to listen and then give short answers, like no that is not possible and then just repeat the answer after each let off of steam, the more you go into reasons the more that fuels the fire.
You have to remain calm and polite and they soon realise that they are not going to get what they want.
You have to remain calm and polite and they soon realise that they are not going to get what they want.
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Just sounds like a really rude person
a case if DYKWIA....
nothing to do with any illness, just bad manners
"The captain is a little busy flying the plane at the moment, to serve you an alternative meal"
"Unfortunatly, it is not possible for your friend to move up to Business class or first"
"But should you wish. You can move back to economy and sit with them"
"you will also be able to enjoy a different style of meal, which may be more to your liking"
a case if DYKWIA....
nothing to do with any illness, just bad manners
"The captain is a little busy flying the plane at the moment, to serve you an alternative meal"
"Unfortunatly, it is not possible for your friend to move up to Business class or first"
"But should you wish. You can move back to economy and sit with them"
"you will also be able to enjoy a different style of meal, which may be more to your liking"
#9
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Having witnessed yet another rude passenger on the Rio to Heathrow flight, I wonder whether crews or fellow passengers can start asking these individuals whether they are on medication. It's uncomfortable to watch unreasonable adult behaviours which this time involved a lady loudly demanding that the captain came to speak to her about the lack of choice in starters and desserts. It later turned into demands that her friend in Y should be given the spare CW seat next to her. Should crews be able to discreetly ask someone whether the person is on medication? Would crews add a note to the passenger records to reflect possible mental health issues and erratic behaviours rather than just "rude" or "unruly"?
I dont see the requests as rude but more unusual
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The way I handle rude customers is to listen and then give short answers, like no that is not possible and then just repeat the answer after each let off of steam, the more you go into reasons the more that fuels the fire.
You have to remain calm and polite and they soon realise that they are not going to get what they want.
You have to remain calm and polite and they soon realise that they are not going to get what they want.
Travelling in Y to and from PIT last week I was royally looked after by the crew, for which I was extremely grateful - in fact I specifically asked to see the CSM to make sure he thanked them on my behalf during the Mixed Fleet de-brief, and from his reaction that's not something that happened very often. All that brought was more leftover goodies from CW and another glass of champagne, although by the time I was served afternoon tea with a tablecloth (albeit at 2am UK time) the people sitting in the aisle opposite must have wondered what on earth was going on!
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There's no suggestion that access to medical records is granted. More that crews are alert to the signs of mental health. It's common practice and often referred to as a duty of care in many UK organisations now. Professionals would probably argue that rudeness is linked to the mind functions and emotions being distorted (for whatever reason, including as a result of alcohol, frustration) but that's maybe not for this forum. I certainly looked at the individual on my flight as being irrational in that moment (with possibly low emotional intelligence) but in an empathetic way, hence the question.
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Rude behaviour is usually not driven by medication, rather a mix of genetics and upbringing. If you’re dealing with a grown up rude person, it’s safe to assume they will have that personality trait for the rest of their life.
Which in itself is probably a reason to feel sorry for them, more than anything else...
Which in itself is probably a reason to feel sorry for them, more than anything else...