Screen etiquette - should I be offended?
Feb 13, 2019, 4:07 pm
#46
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Fellow travellers really don’t appreciate that sort of stuff - and it’s time you cut it out.
(please excuse the silly joke ....... couldn’t resist
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Feb 13, 2019, 4:10 pm
#47
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Quite agree but that (and other comments) lead me to a further question - do you have any privacy in an aisle seat? I love the middle seat when travelling as a couple as there is almost total privacy with the screens up but the comments about the person wanting privacy when they're in the aisle seat just sound a bit odd as they are certainly not private.
I must reiterate that I love the screens and the privacy - it's just the fact the guy lowered it before sitting down and even looking at me. I must admit I've seen better days but he didn't even look at who was in the seat before hitting the button - I mean it could have been a supermodel, rock star or his potential future life partner sitting there
I must reiterate that I love the screens and the privacy - it's just the fact the guy lowered it before sitting down and even looking at me. I must admit I've seen better days but he didn't even look at who was in the seat before hitting the button - I mean it could have been a supermodel, rock star or his potential future life partner sitting there
Feb 13, 2019, 4:18 pm
#48
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Haha yes at least there was that! Maybe the word " offended" in the title isn't quite the right word 
Must admit I would have found it more 'normal' if he'd looked at me, gone "Urghhhh" and raised the screen. Just found it weird that raising the screen was his first priority before anything else.
Very interesting thread - thanks everyone - off to fight the jetlag now
Must admit I would have found it more 'normal' if he'd looked at me, gone "Urghhhh" and raised the screen. Just found it weird that raising the screen was his first priority before anything else.
Very interesting thread - thanks everyone - off to fight the jetlag now
Feb 13, 2019, 4:20 pm
#49
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If you are a business traveller (or just an introvert), you may just want to prevent any possibility conversation starting. You might think saying hi is just saying hi. Others think this is an invite a full blown conversation. I made that mistake on a flight from Singapore to London and ended up having someone talk to me for an hour from boarding to after take off.
Or it could be that they wanted to fly the far superior Qantas or Singapore Airlines business class and couldn't get seats!!!!!
Or it could be that they wanted to fly the far superior Qantas or Singapore Airlines business class and couldn't get seats!!!!!
Feb 13, 2019, 5:40 pm
#52
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I understand and empathize with people wanting privacy, but some people here are acting like they are afraid of human interaction. Quite sad really. Shows the state of the world we live in. It sure is an inconvenience if you cannot get the privacy screen up, but talking with another human being is not the end of the world. I also don't appreciate the amount of condescension you are being showed in this thread. My opinion is that it was a bit of a rude way to handle the situation, but that there are far worse ways this could have been handled
I'm with the OP here. While I agree privacy in J is important manners should dictate no individual takes control of the screen without saying something to the person on the other side first. Seems like a mixture of 'frequent flyer' bravado and someone lacking in social skills....in other words a bit of an arse. Not worth worrying about.
Feb 13, 2019, 6:01 pm
#54
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Haha yes at least there was that! Maybe the word " offended" in the title isn't quite the right word
Must admit I would have found it more 'normal' if he'd looked at me, gone "Urghhhh" and raised the screen. Just found it weird that raising the screen was his first priority before anything else.
Very interesting thread - thanks everyone - off to fight the jetlag now
Must admit I would have found it more 'normal' if he'd looked at me, gone "Urghhhh" and raised the screen. Just found it weird that raising the screen was his first priority before anything else.
Very interesting thread - thanks everyone - off to fight the jetlag now
And I mean this in a constuctive manner.
Last edited by HMPS; Feb 13, 2019 at 6:10 pm
Feb 13, 2019, 6:48 pm
#55
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Sometimes I just write what I think - didn't realise I had to adhere to someone else's rules of what are " an internally consistent set of statements".
I am shy but don't have a problem with it and I can assure you I am also not the problem - just someone who was brought up to appreciate good manners and common courtesy. However if you are ever sitting opposite me do feel free to raise that screen as soon as you like
I am shy but don't have a problem with it and I can assure you I am also not the problem - just someone who was brought up to appreciate good manners and common courtesy. However if you are ever sitting opposite me do feel free to raise that screen as soon as you like
Feb 13, 2019, 8:20 pm
#56
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Honestly, there are no such 'ettiquette' or 'manners' necessary or expected in raising the screens. They want to raise it, they raise it. Whatever timing that happens to be, doesn't need to be confirmed with anyone else unless it is a safety hazard, and if so, there will be rules and they will be locked by the crew. If it wasn't, then there shouldn't be any problems. There shouldn't be any expectations nor ettiquette requiring anyone to socialise with anyone else, including a "hi". They ahd no obligations to say hi to you nor would it prevent crew from doing their jobs.
Feb 13, 2019, 8:44 pm
#57
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[left]Completely normal behaviour I would say / it’s certainly what I would do the moment I saw down. One of the unwritten CW rules is that anyone can put the divider up, any time. Having experienced an over enthusiastic talker many years ago I have no desire to be caught by another one jabbering at me face on �� Not suggesting you are one of those of course!
While I do say something like "Would you mind if I put the divider up?" before doing so, I would not expect a "no" without a good reason. (They will get a very sympathetic response if they are claustrophobic or otherwise have a good reason and said no though, as I am still just about functional as a human being, although it's a bit borderline! Saying that, no-one has ever been reluctant to say "sure" etc.)
Saying that, a friend of mine reports that he did not put the screen up at all even though he had fully intended to put it up immediately, when an extremely attractive female sat down next to him and started talking to him and wouldn't shut up. Normally he'd cut them off but he couldn't bring himself to doing so
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Feb 13, 2019, 10:01 pm
#59
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Being the generous sort, I usually offer "to raise the screen to give you some more privacy." :-)
When flying JAL, where the dividing screen is between parallel forward-facing seats, a small bow of the head covers all bases.
When flying JAL, where the dividing screen is between parallel forward-facing seats, a small bow of the head covers all bases.
Feb 13, 2019, 11:56 pm
#60
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I always find the sooner the divider is up the better for both parties. On my first ever CW flight I remember the lady put the divider up straight away and I was a bit put out, now I don't think anything of it. She also wanted it lowered for landing so she could look out the window (landing in Barbados), I put it straight back up however when she lowered it in a kind of defiance for her putting it up in the first place, again, now I would not care either way if they wanted to look out the window.
