Vote for the Sony
As stated before, the Bose as well as the Sony are compatible with the plugs in the spacebeds. For me, the Sonys work better, because with them I can even sleep on my side (works best with two cushions). The Bose are too big for that. And of course, more expensive. That said, if the noise reduction and the sound is the most important, you may be happier with the Bose.
And yes - the Bose get the crew attention, whilst the Sony do not. I prefer not to have any tech talk with the FAs. YMMV.
Cheers,
Torsten