Just an update on this after our stay, despite what I was told in emails by the hotel, both the front desk and the valets were VERY accommodating, and did not blink an eye at doing a "self park." I still had to pay for the valet parking charges, (which was fine) but they permitted me to park in the valet lot, and leave my key with the valets.
Apparently, self parking is not uncommon in these times and they were willing to accommodate without blinking an eye. There were also accommodating to make sure that my car was plugged in at the shared charger.
Too bad the email responses from the hotel were not in sync with the reality of the front line workers, it would have made this a "non-issue" with no post required for thoughts on this issue.
BTW, the adjacent lot seen in the maps is an employee lot, and not available to guests. The nearby public parking nearby is for beach use, and not open in the evenings.
A very nice stay!