OK, that’s a fair point although I’d venture to guess it’s rather less common / likely than someone just trying it on, but as you say we don’t know. Even if the latter is the case, clearly half the people here have no problem with that and even admire it..

Maybe the real distinction is whether you are brought up as an Asker or a Guesser -

https://ask.metafilter.com/55153/Wha...Welcome#830421

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeands...-asker-guesser