It's a lottery for me. Last week I flew from ATH to BCN via AMS in J and got lots of attention on the ATH to AMS (I was the only passenger addressed by name, plenty of chit chat from the purser) but zero attention on the AMS to BCN, had to even ask for a coffee after the meal.
To be fair to the FA on that flight though, she was racing around the galley trying to serve the 16 pax in the cabin. I think she simply had no time. On quieter flights the FAs have more time to give attention.