If it were me, I'd go for option 2. This is your honeymoon you're talking about. A 9 hour layover sounds like no fun at all. If you can convince AA to buy you a night in a hotel, will that be the level of place you would want to stay at, coming home from a Bali honeymoon? And, unless they can confirm you through SFO sooner rather than later, leading up to your wedding day I'd think you have plenty of other things to fret over. So, yeah, it's completely not right but if it were me I'd just plan on spending a night in LA and book someplace that I could be comfortable at. That's just me.