Thank you so so much everyone. You folks are great- i do fly some so i dont know how this escaped me- Your ideas are all great- unfortunately we are flying from sfo to lax so we do not have a great deal of time between flights. i will try in sfo. with AA. Steve thanks for telling me not to mention the "i booked this 11 months ago" i probarbly would have done that.
I will ask politely.
Hope we manage- if not maybe i will have to go to the bathroom a lot so the person next to me may want to exchange for my husbands window seat (thats if all else fails)
Will tell you whaat happened.