Who gets the sofabed?
Nov 19, 2014, 10:38 am
#31
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I would have told him I was taking the sofa-bed and
dispensed with the issue immediately.
Yes, it is my room... but I like to be a gracious host
and not have my friends consider me a stinker.
I think your friend just wanted to dispense with what
was obviously the elephant in the room at the time.
dispensed with the issue immediately.
Yes, it is my room... but I like to be a gracious host
and not have my friends consider me a stinker.
I think your friend just wanted to dispense with what
was obviously the elephant in the room at the time.
Nov 19, 2014, 1:06 pm
#34
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Lol ^But seriously - there are only a handful of friends I would share a room with in the first place (and even then only if accommodation was very expensive or limited). If we could only get a king bed, I'd feel comfortable enough to share it with them - not ideal, but there's plenty of room in a king!
In fact, though it has been a few years now, when we were younger and wanting to save money, three of us spent a couple of weeks driving across America - we always stayed in one room with two double beds, and used to cut a deck of cards every night to see who got one to themselves! Can't say I'd choose to do it now I'm a bit older and have a bit more money, but if needs be...
Nov 19, 2014, 1:06 pm
#35
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I can think of 9/10 friends who would take the Beetle in a heartbeat, it is a 'fun' car! I am not a particular fan of the Beetle, but I would probably take it for the fact it is a VW, which I far prefer driving, and tends to have a higher base model level than Fords (I've owned both VWs and Ford myself).
As for the OP's question - I agree that s/he did it to him/herself. If someone asks your preference, don't read so much into their deep, dark motivations for doing so - they are just asking. Give an honest answer.
Nov 19, 2014, 3:12 pm
#36
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What about cultures where if you admire someone's watch, for example, their way is to try to give it to you. Obviously you would be a real jerk to take advantage of someone you know is just being polite. It is a version of that, OP was just being polite asking Friend his bed preference and in this little dance OP is not supposed to take advantage.
Nov 20, 2014, 12:14 pm
#37
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What about cultures where if you admire someone's watch, for example, their way is to try to give it to you. Obviously you would be a real jerk to take advantage of someone you know is just being polite. It is a version of that, OP was just being polite asking Friend his bed preference and in this little dance OP is not supposed to take advantage.
This very akin to " nice tie" BS.
Nov 20, 2014, 5:30 pm
#39
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I can see lots of reasons not to give this friend the benefit of a doubt. However, perhaps you know some reasons that he should be? Maybe he has a bad back, for example, and was desperately hoping for a proper bed?
Ultimately, no one can give you the "right" answer. You have to judge what you get from your friendship.
Ultimately, no one can give you the "right" answer. You have to judge what you get from your friendship.
Nov 20, 2014, 6:45 pm
#40
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If he has a bad back I know nothing of it.
In good faith all relevant facts are in my original post. This friend and I are not close but we have known each other, on amicable terms, with regular communication, for 6 years.
The likeliest explanation, I think, is that he forgot that I was "paying" for the room. He may have believed the room was truly free.
In good faith all relevant facts are in my original post. This friend and I are not close but we have known each other, on amicable terms, with regular communication, for 6 years.
The likeliest explanation, I think, is that he forgot that I was "paying" for the room. He may have believed the room was truly free.
Nov 20, 2014, 6:59 pm
#41
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If he has a bad back I know nothing of it.
In good faith all relevant facts are in my original post. This friend and I are not close but we have known each other, on amicable terms, with regular communication, for 6 years.
The likeliest explanation, I think, is that he forgot that I was "paying" for the room. He may have believed the room was truly free.
In good faith all relevant facts are in my original post. This friend and I are not close but we have known each other, on amicable terms, with regular communication, for 6 years.
The likeliest explanation, I think, is that he forgot that I was "paying" for the room. He may have believed the room was truly free.
Nov 20, 2014, 7:20 pm
#42
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Nov 20, 2014, 7:42 pm
#44
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Agreed, Power of the Purse and all. A FT friend of mine crashed in my hotel recently, it had a King bed and a pull out couch. I being me just told him "I paid, I get the bed" and he was cool with it. I think the people who said to be assertive are correct so that's something you can remember going forward.
