My only pet peeve -- leering over to look out "my" window
Apr 19, 2014, 7:04 pm
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Just leaning into the aisle and looking out the window that happens to be on your side of the plane, seems completely unobjectionable.
I can relate to OP. I had dude next to me in F a week ago ask me to open the shade (I had headphones on so not sue of why exactly), prior to take off he specifically asked if I could open it during take off. I obliged, then noticed him not even looking out the window.
I'm also new to the idea that other people eating their own food on the plane is an intrusion against your rights.
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Apr 19, 2014, 7:45 pm
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As this issue could arise on any airline, I'll move to TravelBuzz to share with others. /Moderator.
Apr 20, 2014, 5:52 am
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I find it hard to believe that anyone could lean from one aisle seat all the way across the aisle and actually intrude into your personal space (i.e., the area above your seat). It seems almost physically impossible.
Just leaning into the aisle and looking out the window that happens to be on your side of the plane, seems completely unobjectionable.
Just leaning into the aisle and looking out the window that happens to be on your side of the plane, seems completely unobjectionable.
I don't think FT is that bad,,,..
Apr 20, 2014, 6:38 am
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I find it hard to believe that anyone could lean from one aisle seat all the way across the aisle and actually intrude into your personal space (i.e., the area above your seat). It seems almost physically impossible.
Just leaning into the aisle and looking out the window that happens to be on your side of the plane, seems completely unobjectionable.
Just leaning into the aisle and looking out the window that happens to be on your side of the plane, seems completely unobjectionable.
Apr 20, 2014, 7:56 am
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I am with the OP on this one. That would drive me nuts not to mention she can look out her own window. Please stop staring at my space. I would have slammed that window cover shut in 2 seconds flat. End of problem.
Apr 20, 2014, 8:02 am
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Drives me nuts too.
On a flight from BKK to NRT a few years ago we were in the first row of a UA 747. The woman in the row behind me reached past by seat to close the window shade that was, in the upright position, about 75% in 'my' space (and 100% in my space with even the slightest recline). She then stretched forward and closed the next one that was fully in my space. I turned around and told her to keep her hands to herself and opened them all up.
On a flight from BKK to NRT a few years ago we were in the first row of a UA 747. The woman in the row behind me reached past by seat to close the window shade that was, in the upright position, about 75% in 'my' space (and 100% in my space with even the slightest recline). She then stretched forward and closed the next one that was fully in my space. I turned around and told her to keep her hands to herself and opened them all up.
Apr 20, 2014, 8:33 am
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What would you do if she kept looking into your space even after you closed the window? Maybe you could call the FA and declare an emergency.
Apr 20, 2014, 9:47 am
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Apr 20, 2014, 9:56 am
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Drives me nuts too.
On a flight from BKK to NRT a few years ago we were in the first row of a UA 747. The woman in the row behind me reached past by seat to close the window shade that was, in the upright position, about 75% in 'my' space (and 100% in my space with even the slightest recline). She then stretched forward and closed the next one that was fully in my space. I turned around and told her to keep her hands to herself and opened them all up.
On a flight from BKK to NRT a few years ago we were in the first row of a UA 747. The woman in the row behind me reached past by seat to close the window shade that was, in the upright position, about 75% in 'my' space (and 100% in my space with even the slightest recline). She then stretched forward and closed the next one that was fully in my space. I turned around and told her to keep her hands to herself and opened them all up.
Apr 20, 2014, 10:21 am
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If it's uncomfortable for you then reciprocate the discomfort. Every time she leans across and looks you should engage with her in some way she wasn't expecting but that she would feel obligated to respond to politely.
E.g. She looks across and you hold up whatever is in your hand. If it's your iPad and you're playing sudoku say something like "It's always the sevens I can't get" while looking straight at her until she responds. She'll probably say something like "I was looking out of the window" to which you just respond "Oh!" in a very exaggerated way. Repeat until she doesn't look your way any more. Don't be rude. Just make her feel socially awkward. It's a fun game to see how long it takes her to stop.
If she shouts at you then call the FA.
E.g. She looks across and you hold up whatever is in your hand. If it's your iPad and you're playing sudoku say something like "It's always the sevens I can't get" while looking straight at her until she responds. She'll probably say something like "I was looking out of the window" to which you just respond "Oh!" in a very exaggerated way. Repeat until she doesn't look your way any more. Don't be rude. Just make her feel socially awkward. It's a fun game to see how long it takes her to stop.
If she shouts at you then call the FA.
Apr 20, 2014, 12:40 pm
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If it's uncomfortable for you then reciprocate the discomfort. Every time she leans across and looks you should engage with her in some way she wasn't expecting but that she would feel obligated to respond to politely.
E.g. She looks across and you hold up whatever is in your hand. If it's your iPad and you're playing sudoku say something like "It's always the sevens I can't get" while looking straight at her until she responds. She'll probably say something like "I was looking out of the window" to which you just respond "Oh!" in a very exaggerated way. Repeat until she doesn't look your way any more. Don't be rude. Just make her feel socially awkward. It's a fun game to see how long it takes her to stop.
If she shouts at you then call the FA.
E.g. She looks across and you hold up whatever is in your hand. If it's your iPad and you're playing sudoku say something like "It's always the sevens I can't get" while looking straight at her until she responds. She'll probably say something like "I was looking out of the window" to which you just respond "Oh!" in a very exaggerated way. Repeat until she doesn't look your way any more. Don't be rude. Just make her feel socially awkward. It's a fun game to see how long it takes her to stop.
If she shouts at you then call the FA.
Apr 20, 2014, 12:56 pm
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This is what bothers me. I too feel more for the person in front of her. People who pull my seat back and jerk my head back. No clue!
Apr 20, 2014, 1:38 pm
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I'm always amused when something like this....
Is followed by this....
At this point, I'm almost certain that some people here make it their mission in life to be as miserable and passive aggressive as possible, without being outwardly hostile. 
If it's uncomfortable for you then reciprocate the discomfort. Every time she leans across and looks you should engage with her in some way she wasn't expecting but that she would feel obligated to respond to politely.
E.g. She looks across and you hold up whatever is in your hand. If it's your iPad and you're playing sudoku say something like "It's always the sevens I can't get" while looking straight at her until she responds. She'll probably say something like "I was looking out of the window" to which you just respond "Oh!" in a very exaggerated way. Repeat until she doesn't look your way any more. Don't be rude. Just make her feel socially awkward. It's a fun game to see how long it takes her to stop.
If she shouts at you then call the FA.
E.g. She looks across and you hold up whatever is in your hand. If it's your iPad and you're playing sudoku say something like "It's always the sevens I can't get" while looking straight at her until she responds. She'll probably say something like "I was looking out of the window" to which you just respond "Oh!" in a very exaggerated way. Repeat until she doesn't look your way any more. Don't be rude. Just make her feel socially awkward. It's a fun game to see how long it takes her to stop.
If she shouts at you then call the FA.