I don't know if I was being too paranoid but I think a flight attendant crossed the line with me today. Every time he passed my seat he would stop and talk to me, while he was talking he would put his hand on my shoulder and gently caress it. (I am a male too). Each time he did this I would pull my shoulder away. When he was giving the coats back at the end of the flight, he deliberately put my jacket on my lap while putting his hand on my crotch.
What do I do about this? Do I report it? Is it worth my while?
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I had real flirty FA 2 flights ago, female , I was ok with it. Earlier this year had male one that was almost as bad. Both touched shoulder numerous times, close talked, made sure I was OK, engaged in more than average small talk, "flirted" ( female was almost playful)
Ok with it either way as it means nothing to me in big picture, figured both were just in good mood and trying extra hard.
I'm comfortable with who I am and frankly at my age not in the "game" or take things like that seriously.
I did find the female one cute and maybe 20-25 years ago.......
I think you might be a little too sensitive.
Some people are just overly friendly and like to make some contact to create that personal connection.
Unless you are 100% sure the hand on your crotch was intentional and not an accident, I would leave it alone. Rubbing someone's shoulder should not be seen as sexual harassment.
It's not like he had any power to force you to do something you are not comfortable with (like a boss etc), you could have just told him that you are uncomfortable with physical touching and that he should leave you alone. If he still touched you after that, then you most certainly should complain.
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As annoying as it was, it will come down to his word against yours, and ultimately nothing can be done, or will be done. The AC HR people would not have a lot to go on unless they had independent confirmation of some sort.
And, again acknowledging that it was annoying, there are dozens of things in life that should get us mad. This isn't one of them. Write it off as overly pushy flirting and move on.
And, again acknowledging that it was annoying, there are dozens of things in life that should get us mad. This isn't one of them. Write it off as overly pushy flirting and move on.
Ummm, the OP said the FA deliberately put his hand on his crotch. This isn't something in life that should get you mad? Would you feel the same way if it was your wife/sister/daughter?
As annoying as it was, it will come down to his word against yours, and ultimately nothing can be done, or will be done. The AC HR people would not have a lot to go on unless they had independent confirmation of some sort.
Reporting it still can't hurt. If HR sees a pattern, they may do something.
I would be careful about this. The thing that's at issue essentially is the crotch thing--and only you know the deal there, OP. Could it be an accidental grazing of some kind or something? If there is any doubt, perhaps give the FA the benefit of the doubt... this is serious stuff and unless you're sure, I would leave it alone.
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Originally Posted by zsm1928
I don't know if I was being too paranoid but I think a flight attendant crossed the line with me today. Every time he passed my seat he would stop and talk to me, while he was talking he would put his hand on my shoulder and gently caress it. (I am a male too). Each time he did this I would pull my shoulder away. When he was giving the coats back at the end of the flight, he deliberately put my jacket on my lap while putting his hand on my crotch.
What do I do about this? Do I report it? Is it worth my while?
Over-sensitive....he might have behaved with goofy gestures. As long as you did not lose anything, unless you were traumatized losing sleeps or having nightmares over his behavours, or psychologically tormented.
No big deal.
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Reminds me somewhat of the Friends episode, The One With Ross's New Girlfriend:
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Chandler: He said he was going to do my inseam, then he ran his hand up my leg, and then there was definite... Ross: What? Chandler: ...Cupping. Joey: That's how they do pants! First they go up one side, they move it over, then they go up the other side, they move it back, and then they do the rear. What? Ross, Ross? Would you tell him? Isn't that how they measure pants? Ross: Yes, yes it is. In prison!
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Originally Posted by CD_YOW
Reminds me somewhat of the Friends episode, The One With Ross's New Girlfriend:
Lmao, great one CD_Yow
OP: Did he invite you to sit up in the empty seat in First Class? If that was the case, I would say flirt away But in all seriousness, if you encounter this person on another flight and you experience the same type of behavior, then I would certainly say something to the gate attendants or get this persons information and report to Customer Service.
But in all seriousness, if you encounter this person on another flight and you experience the same type of behavior, then I would certainly say something to the gate attendants or get this persons information and report to Customer Service.
