Hi - Was there on a cruise in December. The island had a Dutch influence of "live and let live" - found it even more so in Curacao. Not sure if you've chosen a hotel, but Oranjestad is not the most attractive town (very touristy, a bit garish, crawling with cruise ship passengers) - would probably stay north of town on the beach, and take a taxi into town when needed. Heard that Eagle Beach is the most mixed beach on the island, as well.
Found a couple of websites/articles which may help.
aruba.gaycities.com
http://www.passportmagazine.com/dest...BC_Islands.php
Hope this helps, and wishing you a great trip.